Do you have the ability to fall in love?

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That´s so beautiful . May many years and a lot of happiness follow.

As to myself, I think I cannot really love. Intimacy is too much for me. I always chose guys I would "love" of which I knew subconsciously it never would work out, so in the end I could say, well I tried, hehe. Sometimes I feel sad I cannot let someone else get close to me, but I have my two dogs and my rabbit and Í love them very much .

I have in the past, but I cannot manage it right now. I can't even fall in "like" right now (last 5 years or so). It's frustrating, especially since I remember what it was like.

I don't know?
I have never been in love. I want to more than anything in the world. Each year I find it more and more unlikely.
I don't even know how to talk to a man. Men seem to only like girls that are confident.
Sometimes I think romance is just something made up by Hollywood as a sick joke to the lonely.
Other aspies seem to have no trouble. I think it would be possible if I would get a job or ever get out of my house.
I am not going to change myself or my appearance for a man.
Is 27 too old to have never had a relationship?

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I can.
I did.
I hope to again.

OMG YES. It was the most amazing wonderful, best and most horrible time of my life. it scares me. It makes you do things you wouldn't normally and alll sense of reason goes flying out the window.

I avoid it like the plague but do still want it again lol.

Oh yes, I have the ability to fall in love. My heart was broken when my first boyfriend broke up with me this May and then died this November. Yeah... it really, really sucks...

I love the feeling of falling in love. I just feel so aflutter like I'm skipping in the breeze. It is indeed a wonderful feeling. I wish I had more opportunities to get out more. I'm almost always stuck in my house these days studying and reading or just hanging out on the internet.

Oh well, at least I am involved in a Dagorhir group and there are lots of men there and I kind of have a crush on this one Aspie kid in my English class. The semester is over and I'm afraid I might not get to see him again!

Yeees. I think. I can never tell if it's infatuation or love. This is my longest relationship so far (5 months) so I never really got to the point where infatuation can turn into love n stuff. >.<

Yes, I can fall in love but I'm rubbish at sustaining a relationship.

At my advanced age (43! - how did I get to be so old? ) I've given up on romance and hoping that I will meet the right person.

Now I'm happy to be on my own.

i'm forty five and a half and i've never, ever, been in love and i know i never will and i don't care.
i've had one nights stands and i got tired of them very quickly. i love my nieces and my brother and i loved my cats so much, god bless their silky souls in felines heaven...
if i ever fall in love i'll feel suffocated. i can be attracted to a guy and maybe like him a bit and that's it. that's the end of the line for me. doesn't get any further than that. thanks for letting me know i'm not the only one. being around people is draining, every day, forever... the thought gives me the creeps. sounds like torture to me. i have a desperate need to be alone or i'll go crazy.
i've read many aspies don't get married, but then some do and it's different for every one as an individual. you can get married if you feel you're up to it, but if you don't...

I have fallen "in lust". I consider it the superficial form of love. You think you're in love, but it's just attraction and letting emotions getting carried away. I made too many bad decisions when I was under that spell.

I am not sure I am capable of falling in romantic love, or really loving someone the same as others do. I feel like I'm cursed because of this. I still have some of the desire for a normal relationship, like most people.

I'm 62 and have been married twice, but never been in love. I don't really understand the concept either. When I was younger, I used to have crazy crushes and tell guys I loved them straight away - then get fed up with them very quickly and dump them. I've never had a boken heart, but I've broken a few. I really didn't know what I was doing. Now that I realise I'm an Aspie, I will stop and think first! Generally tho, I like living alone and am fine like that. I've spent most of my life avoiding sex - lol.

I've had crushes before but I'm either too young or too inexperienced to say that I have ever been in love. I'm unsure of if I would be capable either. I have been interested in a few guys before and I almost dated one of these guys once. It didn't work out because I was probably too weird for him. I'm trying to teach myself to not want a relationship because the success of Aspies in relationships seems to be incredibly slim.

I'm 34 and have never fallen in love with anybody.

Yes, very much so.

Yes. I'm in love with my coffee right now.

Seriously, I have fallen very deeply in love in the past.

I know I'm too young to say that I'm 100% sure that I'm in love, but I feel like I am. I've been with my boyfriend (who's also an aspie) for almost 2 years. We both have a lot of the same interests, we take care of eachother, and we know eachother like the back of our hands. Plus, we're eachother's first love. Sometimes we even fight like a married couple, but our love dominates over any type of conflict we've ever had. I feel very fortunate to have him in my life to hold me, kiss me, and call me his girl. I wouldn't want to change a thing because I love him more than anything in the world