Ladies, Your First Time? (Virginity)

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My first time with a man wasn't that great. We had just started to know each other and I wasn't fully comfortable. I remember that it hurt alot and I cried afterward. Later it became much nicer.
My first time with a woman was amazing. We had been dating for a year before we had sex, because my lover had some issues she needed to work through before we could have sex. We were both hungover and nervous, but it was still great.

It's awesome?

Don't be downcast. Not healthy

I've had three first times. That's how I count, because to me (at least back in the days when I was a virgin), "first time" meant these things: to have your hymen tear by someone's penis (fingers?) and to be penetrated.

In reality, that didn't happen in one event. It took months and three different guys. The first one "popped my cherry" but he couldn't penetrate me. The second one penetrated me just a little but he couldn't go further. The third one managed to go all the way. I count all of that as my first time, though I guess only the first time was "the first time".

But since nothing really happened, it was pretty uneventful, if you don't count all the blood. There was so much blood but there was no pain (or just a minimal pain). Emotionally, the whole thing was: WTF, what's wrong with my body?

However, you could say I like sex.

For me it was rape at the age of four by a 12 year old. He penetrated every orifice. I was in a lot of pain for about two days. Basically, I used to have sex to keep guys around. It doesn't work. The first time I had an actual orgasm was with someone my family taught me to believe was forbidden fruit. I'm black/white - this guy was blue-eyed with extremely light blond hair - even down there! It was the ultimate pleasure to touch what I was forever told was off-limits. I look at it this way - if you don't orgasm - then it's not sex.

That's the way I would have liked it to be for me!! ! If you want to know why, just read my other post.

I would imagine myself as a real dirtball (with the back of the pants hanging down to where you can see the crack) but making a lot of money doing manual labor such as car mechanics, HVAC, construction, plumbing, you name it! I also would probably frequent whore houses a lot until I had some sort of arranged marriage to a hopefully aspergian, pet-loving female. I don't think I'd be able to handle fatherhood - maybe just one child.

I first did it on November the 14th, 2009, when I was 19. I lost my virginity in my bedroom, home alone with my very first boyfriend. It had been scarcely two weeks since I had had my very first make out. So things came really suddenly. I passed from being an outcast who thought she'd never have a boyfriend, to kissing and having sex for the first time in a matter of weeks!

Anyway, we were both virgins and rather nervous. It was quite painful at first. For virgin ladies, what I felt was like this... dunno, this uncomfortable pressure down there (I think the pressure was far worse than the pain... the pain was like a little sting, but the pressure was horrible). But I truly loved him and the fact of being naked in his arms was enough for me. For the very first time in my life, I felt comfortable touching and caressing someone, and I discovered the delight of being touched and caressed too.
It was over far sooner than we expected, barely 10 minutes (I repeat, he was a virgin too, hahaha, so no need to explain why it took him so little to... er... hehe *nervous giggle* )
But we cuddled afterwards and slept together. I felt like in a movie. It was so romantic and sweet.
I bled a little, nonetheless. After the sex itself, there were a few stains of blood in the bed covers and when I showered the next morning, I still bled. Not much, though.

I must confess I first thought: "Is this it? What's with the big deal? It hasn't been physically pleasurable at all!".

But believe me, once you get the hang of it, it gets better and better. Start having sex, and you'll keep needing it for the rest of your life!

I had about given up on sex as a mediocre, complicated experience until I met my current partner.

He is amazing; it feels ethereal and primal simultaneously most of the time. It is what I always hoped sex would be like and it's better even than that

The other people I had had sex with...the experiences ranged from terrible to mediocre....doesn't even compare

Oral sex is just a strange experience...the first time I performed fellatio years ago, the boy held my head down until I choked on his fluids (why is it some men find choking women with their member and/or juices sexy??)

It had become rote and mindless for the others after that

Amazingly, and joyfully, my current partner doesn't like oral sex other than a quick kiss... sigh, I'm so lucky in so many ways with him...I also suspect he is an Aspie, rather affectionate for a male though

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Didn't enjoy it at all. It wasn't good at all. :/

Both my partner and i were in uni and neither of us had had sex before

i'd played around a little with friends before, but i'm not a very trusting person and i'm very shy when it comes to my body

anyway, it was awkward, we were both excited and nervous, he was certain he was going to hurt me. but it was ok. took awhile for us to get "good" at it, but all in all it wasn't horrible

nothing like the movies of course

six years on now, and he's still the only man i've trusted enough i still feel a little awkward at times, and we live together and everything, have for ages. i can't help it, i'm just weird

Once I was really in love with my partner, it was absolutely no different. I still didn't like it. Over a year on, I still don't like it. Giving it time, chance, variation, and everything we can think of under the sun hasn't made any difference.

No, I don't "pleasure myself". I've never had any interest in it. I have tried due to both my partner's and psychiatrist's urging, but never got anywhere. And the definition of asexuality is that you do not experience sexual attraction. Asexuals can (and do) masturbate.