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21 Dec 2011, 2:22 pm

I just found these excellent charts with female Asperger's symptoms and the difference between men and women with Asperger's. Here's the link:

List of Female Aspergers Traits

I plan to print these charts out and hand them to professionals that should know this stuff but don't.


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21 Dec 2011, 9:42 pm

curlyfry wrote:
psayles56 wrote:
Mackica wrote:
well I can see how others "spot" myself
-I practically bound everywhere in public like a deer
-don't make eye contact or fail to notice people
-nervous and anxious around a lot of people
-if forced to be in a closed area,work my way to the window,or simply get upset and break free to be outdoors
-always dressed in earth tones funky clothes
-talk more to children,animals and older people than those my age
-snubs alcohol/clubs
-faces WAY too many faces 8O and always unaware of it!



I can really relate to this post!


Let me add:
dresses for comfort (I'm very particular about my shoes), unless job requires otherwise
very particular or picky about diet (I drink tea and carry teabags for emergency)
control freak
monologues

I didn't care for Daria (too cynical and too predictable)
Lizzy from Pride and Prejudice I can relate to more
Darlene from Roseanne sitcom,possibly but very high functioning
Katherine Hepburn, etc.,


def can relate to you both.



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24 Dec 2011, 12:23 am

Ai_Ling wrote:
As we all know, female aspies are a lot harder to detect because they assimilate with the NT population a lot easier. And aspergers has a male bias so we often don't think girls have aspergers syndrome. I've had very little experience with other female aspies.

What do you think are things to look for when trying to spot out a female aspie? I thought of a few:

1) She may have a flatter voice then most NT females
2) She makes eye contact appropriately but her eye contact is rather dead.
3) When interacting with people she makes appropriate non-verbals but when shes not, her face may look a bit dead.
4) She may say or do small things that are still a little off.

Any other ideas?

I'm persuaded that the secretary at the doctors office is aspie. Her voice is flatter then most NT women, especially for a secretary(most secretary put on a very well-skilled friendly act), her eye contact is rather dead, when I approached her she seemed a little lost with her job, she gave me a red pen to fill out doc forms, she called me this morning to reschedule my app and her speech was awkwardly phrased her words like she didn't automatically know how to smoothly ask me on the spot.


Well I do not like the assumption female aspies can automatically fit in easier, that has never been the case with me.....also I don't make eye contact appropriately. So I don't know that there are any specific ways to spot an aspie female as I am sure they vary.


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24 Dec 2011, 12:27 am

amberzak wrote:
inability to multitask
Poor memory of vocal instructions (or is that just me)
Anxiety in unfamiliar territory
Dislike of change - female copes better then males, and the signs aren't as obvious, but an aspie girl will become uncomfortable with unexpected change.
Still have obsessions, but tend to be more mainstream, so accepted by society more.
Often misdiagnosed as manic-depressive first (I was diagnosed as that when I was 7)
Prone to meltdowns and tears over things considered small to NTs.
Can't contain happiness, so tend to jump up and down, giggle and other 'childish' displays when excited.
Strong moral compass and hates injustice.
Social interaction are 'performed'. Aspie girls can appear more apt at social actions, but is overwhelmed by too many people or small talk.

There is a really good article here:
http://www.byparents-forparents.com/asp ... girls.html


I found the article terrible.......I mean some of that might be true for 'some' girls with AS but not all.


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12 May 2016, 9:36 pm

Tell her so many things that it'll throw her off...kinda funny but I don't want to deliberately mess with her head. Cause if she is in fact aspie, her job is likely already difficult to being with. Makes me wonder how she got it?[/quote]


Maybe she got her job because she's competent.



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13 May 2016, 12:34 am

This post is from 2011.



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13 May 2016, 6:30 am

But I read it yesterday, and felt compelled to respond.



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13 May 2016, 7:29 am

I would say in my case, all the females I suspected as Aspies (or admitted to it) had one thing in common: they tended to hang around males, even if they were heterosexual. All the male Aspies I know tend to get along well with females although they rarely hung out with women as a general rule.

In Junior High, there was this one girl who always hung out by herself or at most with this one gothic girl. She was never bullied but was treated horribly. In her High School graduation picture, she commented on how she hated school and wouldn't miss it one bit despite being a attractive, kind hearted and smart person. That to me is about as obvious a sign of an Aspie as you can get.