Why does society make it so much work to be a woman?!

Post Reply New Topic

go to the medical factory, women's section, the only thing to read in the endless wait amidst the pregant and recently delivered : women's luxury-magazines' f****d messages

bakery test : i got ignored by the young&fashionable, then came the fully covered(cosmetically) other lady: immediately served while still not seeing me, oh well
next time; the same happened, this time the other lady said, "this woman was before me" !!houray!!
another baker, there i always get adressed "mister" but not ignored,
which bring up another question, does bread get in the eyes??????

I'm a guy....and I wish I looked better, and dressed better.

My mother always wants to take me clothes shopping! She doesn't think I have good taste in clothes.

Women probably have it a bit more difficult, in general, when it comes to "appearances."

I am one, though, that likes the "natural woman"--even, sometimes, to the point where she doesn't shave under her arms.

I'm not keen on unshaven legs, though. But if a person I love insists upon not shaving her legs, I won't really raise a big fuss about it.

Hey Briana.....please stay with us.

I like to buy nice shirts and tops, to look smart casual. Jasper Conran, John Rocha, Peter Werth make nice clothes that aren't just branded crap.

I hate the process of shopping though. I'm sure many women and men on the spectrum relate. Internet shopping is easier, but it is difficult to go on just photos.

I'm new here, I'll probably introduce myself at some point but I will say quickly that I was diagnosed as an aspie at 15, about 10 years ago.
My personal style is varied, I can from looking like someone dragged me though a stable backwards to a polished, made up lady (sometimes, even within the same half an hour). For me, I like getting dressed up, I feel like I could rule the world with some properly applied bright red lippy and my favorite pair of red heels. I also like to roll out of bed at ten to eight for an eight o'clock lecture.

When I working at a pig farm, many of the guys I worked with didn't recognize me at work functions because from 7am til 4pm I was a hard working country girl in a (usually covered in pig crap) company supplied uniform. Most people who meet me dressed up and outside of work assume I'm an office girl because I like having polished nails, wear make up and love rocking a cute dress. Why can't I do both? And why should the office girls be held to a standard of grooming like that anyway?

I dress in ways which make me happy. The smiling, confident ruby lipped lady with the killer heels is the mask I wear to mingle and pass. She's the one who gets me through work functions, meetings and anything else where I need to be on my A game. She's too high energy to wear all the time but she's a lot of fun and I value her as much as I value the part of me that only shaves her legs for when she wears a dress. (Love the feeling of super smooth legs but rarely have time to do them properly). To be honest, I could probably be just as outgoing and wear a mask just as well without the red lips but the time and process of applying lipstick is a settling motion, it's almost meditative. In heels, I stand taller (my normal pair add a few inches to my height) and straighter and I actually think about where I put my feet so I'm nowhere near as clumsy as I am in flats.

What I hate is a damned if you do (seen as shallow, vain, manipulative, attention seeking and/or insecure) and damned if you don't (seen as slovenly, lazy, lacking in hygiene, unkempt and/or unprofessional in certain professions) mentality. How about women dress as they please?

I'm not going to bother with applying much more than sun screen and lip balm if I'm out with the horses all day (but I'm not going to hate on the women who do). A night out with the girls on the other hand is the perfect place to wear that new red lippy I bought with the cute dress I found in City Chic the other day. Or I jeans and a tee-shirt if I haven't got round to doing washing just yet.

if you are born a woman, i imagine it takes no work to be a woman, but if you are born a man, then the slog is long and with no true destination to try to become a woman (in my estimation).

In my case... Sure, been told to wear some make up, mind my fashion sense, and find a boyfriend.
Yet I never complied. Complain all they want, I won't do it since I'm not violating everything.
Unless it's some official dress code or requirement, not some unspoken style or whatnot. I don't walk for few miles a day just to look at me.

Then at the same time people would rather have their daughters mimic me for not doing most things I mentioned. Mostly because fashion and 'class' are expensive.
And having a boyfriend or make up is sometimes aren't exactly encouraged. (Yes, discouraging make up)

People mistook my style as descent or conservative. It's just plain casual that I barely put an effort to it.
Granted, either the heat or the rain couldn't help it.


Anyways, I took my physique and natural charm for granted. Not to mention my trend obsessed mom, and sister that I could bug or steal each others' clothes with.
My peers gets flustered over retouching, while everyone knew I don't, and no ones judging me for not facing a mirror with a group of women for every few hours.

Gained Number Post Count (1).
Lose Time (n).

Lose more time here - Updates at least once a week.

I don't shave my legs at all, I'm actually combing my leg hair as I read through this topic. The only reason to shave my pits is because my deoderant will quit on me otherwise.

Perhaps this impression that one *has* to do or wear certain things is more compelling when we are younger? I do identify as female, but I do not wear dresses, or makeup. I will shave, but it is for my comfort and sensory issues, otherwise I probably would not. I keep clean, and I fix my hair up in a bun each day. Again, this is more for my comfort, since having it touch my neck and back drives me up the wall. I am super into the practical, and I have almost no tolerance for what I see as superficial nonsense. I like it, and I am happy. It may not attract many males, but that is fine too. If I do not find someone who can appreciate me as I actually am, I am so bad at pretending, it will not end well, anyway!

not only must you keep up your own appearances but expend that to family and everywhom comes around,
some get offended by others not wearing theeth, and i should control that rule of not offending others by controlling visitors dental-standards? really?