Aspie Women Attracted to "Bad Boys"?

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I'm not really into bad boys, personally.

I'm attracted to guys who are good-hearted but generally seen as 'bad boys' because they're brutally honest and don't conform to society's expectations. Also guys who seem kind of on the cusp of mental illness, though I have no idea why. I think it's their intensity.

Well, any appeal I could see for a bad boy to an Aspie woman would be due to the teasing so many of us have to endure. It can give you a taste for deviant, rebellious behavior and anyone with the guts to lash out as you perhaps felt helpless to do (at least, that's how I feel about it). But my sense of right and wrong is stronger and always was, for which I am now glad.

I feel as Anne of Green Gables did... she said in so many words that she didn't want to marry a man who was wicked, but certainly liked the idea of one who could be wicked, and wasn't.

I think a lot of them attract "bad boys" for example the manipulative sociopathic abusive kind, they seem to find me pretty easy , because I am quite gullible.

I like nicer guys but only if they are not secretly the tricky pretend to be nice to get what they want kind.


I like my ex husband although he had some problems that he has dealt with now, I still have some issues trusting him, even though I know he is a nice person. He is pretty much the example of the eccentric nerdy nice guy most girls discount.

"Street smarts" and/or "people smarts" are what I seek in another's brain.
Not bad boys per se, but not straightedge buttondown guys, either.
Guys with some features of both extremes, as well as plenty of moderate traits in between.

I'm both sentimental and utilitarian in my various stances/reactions to assorted life issues (specifics too lengthy to detail here). As a result, those who can't appreciate these sides of me aren't interested in & attracted to me in the first place-and vice versa: am "into" men who have both these aspects to their personality, expression, functioning, and communication.

I'm a rebel who's attracted to good guys.

Bill Kaulitz picture-sorry flickr not being nice

I'm attracted to androngynous looking effeminate guys Like Bill *my love* Kaulitz here

However, there is a side of me who leans to liking his nice, big mouthy, "all that and a bag of chips" twin brother Tom
(It's gotten so weird, i've even had dreams about him! )

Tom Kaulitz picture on flickr- sorry it won't let me post to this board!

I don't like bad boys. I do like it when a man looks manly however. But as for their inner self, I'd rather have them sweet and caring.

I honestly think that gentlemen are really more attractive personality-wise. If a guy is polite I think that's great. But I like tattoos and things like that, and I don't mind if they've had a troubled past, as long as they are nice to me now.

I don't like. I prefer calm and intelligent nerdy boys in check shirts, who think practically and logically. I reject all the macho types.

Sometimes, I like the individual guys though, so I like different types.

I generally don't like people who are not nice. So no, I'm not attracted to bad boys. I'm OK with being friends with them, but I'm not attracted. I really don't see why a "bad boy" would want anything to do with an aspie girl? Someone who's nerdy, weird, doesn't care about her appearance much and not really into sex (I know I'm generalizing). What's in it for the "bad boys"?

A really nice person who's loving, quiet, modest and dignified really touch my heart, regardless of their looks, age, social status or gender. I think they represent an ideal that I aspire but know I can never achieve. It's probably also because people like that have the patience to tolerate aspies. Lucky for me there are plenty of them in Canada.

I don't know. I'll talk to guys for a bit and they seem normal, but once my trust issues are assuaged they all turn out to have bad stuff going on. Even worse with girls. Here's how it goes:

God: "Wow, you seem so nice and normal! I shall trust you!"

Other person: "Cool! Let me tell you about my secrets! When I was little I [RED FLAG], I like to [RED FLAG]. I also [RED FLAG] and [RED FLAG], because in high school [RED FLAG]. [RED FLAG RED FLAG RED FLAG] kittens!

God: "I don't want intercourse that bad. I'm gonna go and put on my wimple."

And that's why I don't date.

Nope. I was never attracted to bad boys. Actually, I dated my DH because I thought he was such a "good boy"...hmmm...probably the fact I can't read people? But I used to tell everyone what a "good boy" he was...hmmm...he wasn't He's now what I thought he was, but he never really was...

I wouldn't say that I am attracted to bad boys.

but, I am attracted to men that I believe can protect me, whether physically or socially.