LuxoJr wrote:
Not all. Just most of them.
That isn't accurate at all, that is simply sexism.
It is important to note that abusive relationships
develop gradually over time. They worsen through baby steps, and it absolutely takes two to tango. There are almost no people on Earth who would jump into a relationship with a new person, and let them be physically abusive at the start. It is a gradual acceptance of abuse, and a gradual worsening of abuse, that allows abusive relationships to exist.
You defending your abusive boyfriend is the reason you are in an abusive relationship right now, one that is progressively getting more abusive. It is always this way. The person being abused feels that "it's not so bad", and the person doing the abusing thinks
the very same thing. If left to evolve on its own in this fashion, it
will eventually be "so bad", and by then it is too late to deal with it. Every single moment that you suggest what he is doing is "normal", "acceptable", or "not so bad", you are
directly encouraging him to escalate the abuses towards yourself and your dependent animals.
For almost every ongoing abusive relationship out there, there is a person who is justifying the abuse to themselves, in any way possible.
If you make the claim that you
do not support abuse, then you rightfully must at every point in your life,
never accept abuse.
You are currently accepting abuse, rather than forcing your significant other to acknowledge what he is doing as abusive, and stopping it in its tracks.
It can
only get worse over time, so long as
you continue to make excuses for his unacceptable behaviours!
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01 Aug 2011, 5:43 pm
