How do you avoid being sexually attractive?

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04 Aug 2011, 5:16 pm

This topic is hilarious to me, especially right now. Just a few minutes ago, I basically stormed off because I was content and reading a book outside until this obnoxious lifeguard with his shirt off sat right across from me and kept jangling his keys in an obnoxious manner. The last time I tried to go to the pool just to read, he kept looking at me so I had to leave. This time, I was nowhere NEAR the pool and of ALL the seats in the lounge area, he sits right in my line of vision. I basically stomped off mumbling to myself. I wonder, isn't that unattractive enough? Just being a b***h for no apparent reason? Just at the sight of your mere presence?

I am not wearing anything too revealing except I was trying to tan my legs a little with my shoes off. I really hate any sort of attention! Sometimes even when someone looks at me in passing, it annoys me.

Having a bad day, I guess.

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04 Aug 2011, 6:36 pm

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I really hate any sort of attention! Sometimes even when someone looks at me in passing, it annoys me.

Same here! That is one reason that I am glad that my fiance and I concur about not having a wedding. We don't want to be stared by people for a prolonged amount of time. we don't even want a reception, but my sister would be upset if she couldn't bake our wedding cake.

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04 Aug 2011, 7:03 pm

Men almost never show even a hint being sexually attracted to me, so whatever it is I'm doing it must really be working. :lol:

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05 Aug 2011, 12:16 pm

hartzofspace wrote:

lovecholie wrote:

I really hate any sort of attention! Sometimes even when someone looks at me in passing, it annoys me.

Wow, I feel the same way about weddings. My boyfriend/fiancé (it's really not a surprise at this point) are planning on getting married but I get anxiety thinking about planning for a "real" wedding. It just doesn't seem like a thing I'd like to share with the world, but apparently it's a rite of passage. And people get offended if you don't invite them? Actually, we are having a baby before I could even plan an actual formal wedding and I just feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders! I can have my small shotgun wedding with just immediate family and maybe one friend, like I always wanted. Haha! :oops:

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05 Aug 2011, 12:33 pm

mechanicalgirl39 wrote:

Someone who weighs 140kg and is mostly fat probably doesn't have to worry about being hit on by predatory guys

I think you'd be surprised. Why? Because some guys will hit on them too! "Low-hanging fruit" and all that.

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05 Aug 2011, 12:34 pm

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Men almost never show even a hint being sexually attracted to me, so whatever it is I'm doing it must really be working. :lol:

Do you not ever think you might just be missing the body language and facial expressions?

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05 Aug 2011, 1:23 pm

Tequila wrote:

lostonearth35 wrote:

Men almost never show even a hint being sexually attracted to me, so whatever it is I'm doing it must really be working. :lol:

Do you not ever think you might just be missing the body language and facial expressions?

I think that might be the case for you. You're missing the hints. I have never noticed men having a crush on me, until they have stated it out loud. "I have a crush on you." Until that I have been happily ignorant and considered them as friends. But as time passes by, now I can read one expression from a face. Affectionate. It took me ages, but now I know it when I see it. Or at least sometimes.

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05 Aug 2011, 1:41 pm

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I think that might be the case for you.

Are you talking to me or lostonearth35? There certainly have been cases where it has been impossible to deduce that anything other than the other person has a serious crush on me - passing me in the street, walking near me and having to be slowly guided away by her husband, longing, unbroken glances, questioning of "what I was into" in a doctor's surgery - very surreal.

Usually I can tell. If there are serious hints there, then I can always tell. That's not the problem for me.

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05 Aug 2011, 2:21 pm

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hartzofspace wrote:

lovecholie wrote:

I really hate any sort of attention! Sometimes even when someone looks at me in passing, it annoys me.

I envy you for that! We have so far compiled a list of 25 possible guests for our reception and I am already tearing my hair out. We seriously doubt that most of them will come, but are positive that they will feel left out if we don't at least invite them to our reception.

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06 Aug 2011, 2:39 am

I have found that imediately telling any interested men that you are an asexual bisexual seems to do the trick.
Of course they ask stupid questions like how can you be bi if you dont have sex. Duh...cause there is more to being bisexual than having sex. This often makes them wonder.

ALso learn fancy words and insult them with words they dont understand.
They really hate a woman being smarter than them and they cant understand the words you just insulted them with.

Also go on some rant taking a side in a complex scientific debate as if it is the end of the freakin world. You will see the whites of their eyes, I promice. They really dont like girls smarter then they are. It really freaks them out, at least the ones stupid enough to be obvious about lusting after girls like a beefsteak. The plus side is mature and confident guys wont be scared of you, but they wont treat you like dinner, either.

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06 Aug 2011, 6:36 am

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06 Aug 2011, 7:15 am

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I would actually discount the bisexual part entirely. If you're asexual, it doesn't really matter either way because you're not meant to be attracted to anyone!

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Also go on some rant taking a side in a complex scientific debate as if it is the end of the freakin world. You will see the whites of their eyes, I promice. They really dont like girls smarter then they are. It really freaks them out, at least the ones stupid enough to be obvious about lusting after girls like a beefsteak. The plus side is mature and confident guys wont be scared of you, but they wont treat you like dinner, either.

No; you'll freak out everyone. Including those guys that are mature and confident will think you're a nutter too - or more along the lines of "more trouble than it's worth". Do you want to be seen like that?

I can tell you that I wouldn't want to go near a rather deranged asexual obsessive.

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06 Aug 2011, 7:47 am

I've had some success with those people who try to sell you stuff in the streets by being too weird (starting long-winded monologues and tangents, weird questions, problems understanding each other). I'm not sure if this can be generalised to men as well, though.

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06 Aug 2011, 9:27 am

You can be an uppity B!tch...

... maybe ...

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06 Aug 2011, 9:30 am

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06 Aug 2011, 8:37 pm

I think this stuff is the real reason why some guys are homophobic, they're afraid they'll be treated like women.

Every situation is different and it's really important to be aware of your surroundings when a guy comes up to you. 9 times out of 10 they're harmless, but I've been followed for blocks (shouted at the whole time) by an otherwise normal seeming man who was apparently offended that I didn't giggle and smile when he "complimented" me.

If the guy seems harmless and is just honestly hitting on me I usually just smile and say I have a boyfriend. It's very rare that he'll keep pushing. But there have been times when someone invaded my space or touched me and I've shoved them. That can be dangerous though.
Also, (and this may sound bad) I think it's really important not to show fear because I'm pretty convinced that's the reason the really pushy ones have come up to me in the first place.

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