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07 Jan 2012, 7:09 pm

Tequila wrote:

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Which is just fine with me. :wink:

Unless you're a lesbian or are otherwise asexual you'll be spending a long time without a boyfriend/husband if you continue that way.

There's not exactly an 'unless' about this.

If there was it'd be more like; unless people only want relationships for sex, you'll be spending a long time without a boyfriend.

Besides, she doesn't mind.

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07 Jan 2012, 7:21 pm

qwan wrote:

Besides, she doesn't mind.

The way I read it is that she likes repelling all men, no matter what their intentions. If so, that's fine too, as long as she doesn't mind being alone. She might have a problem when she wants company though.

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08 Jan 2012, 5:57 am

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EDIT: I've just seen that she posted that 5 years ago. Let's hope she still doesn't post on here.

I didn't notice that. I thought it was very harsh too. If someone didn't have low self esteem before, they probably did after reading her posts.

But seriously, if someone had been abused and saw that post blaming them for it who knows how bad they would feel.

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08 Jan 2012, 3:00 pm

Tequila wrote:

qwan wrote:

Besides, she doesn't mind.

She said it's protecting her from sexual advances. If a guy doesn't have sexual intentions he could still, in theory, feel comfortable enough to approach her.
And if such guys don't exist, I'm with her in that I'd rather be left alone than have to put up with unwanted sexual attention. >_<
Wanting company is different to wanting sex put repelling people despite it. Here, I'm assuming she isn't interested in sex, and I suppose you're assuming she is or will be interested in sex.
Of course, we could both be wrong.

If she's not comfortable around men then it should be fine until, or if she does grow more comfortable around them. Sometimes exposure to a stressor does only worsen it, if she's happy as things are now, then the caution you have is still valid, I just think it's something she probably will have considered. Considering she's thought about it this much already. But I might be wrong. ^_^

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09 Jan 2012, 6:39 pm

One of the nice things about my AS is that I don't suffer from a compulsive need for a mate and mating. Thus, being "alone" is quite refreshing for me.

But thanks for your concern anyway. :wink:

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09 Jan 2012, 6:43 pm

NiMing wrote:

One of the nice things about my AS is that I don't suffer from a compulsive need for a mate and mating. Thus, being "alone" is quite refreshing for me.

Have you not thought you might be schizoid?

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09 Jan 2012, 7:19 pm

Tequila wrote:

NiMing wrote:

One of the nice things about my AS is that I don't suffer from a compulsive need for a mate and mating. Thus, being "alone" is quite refreshing for me.

Have you not thought you might be schizoid?

They could just be aromantic.

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09 Jan 2012, 8:27 pm

Tequila wrote:

NiMing wrote:

One of the nice things about my AS is that I don't suffer from a compulsive need for a mate and mating. Thus, being "alone" is quite refreshing for me.

Have you not thought you might be schizoid?

Err..yes...I have not thought that. And I will not think that unless I start hearing voices in my head or wearing a tinfoil hat on it. :roll:

So, are you trying to be obtuse, or just a troll?

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10 Jan 2012, 3:02 am

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So, are you trying to be obtuse, or just a troll?

You clearly don't know what a schizoid is. It's not schizophrenia or anything like that - in fact it has not much to do with schizophrenia at all. It's just people who like being on their own a lot, often don't desire company (some don't even feel any affinity with their own families!) or relationships and often have some autistic traits too. You might call them extreme loners. They can talk to people if they want something but they would just rather be on their own as much as possible.

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10 Jan 2012, 4:51 am

Tequila wrote:

Have you not thought you might be schizoid?

I've thought that I might be. On an online test for it I got 90% and it said the web average was 53%. It was my highest personality disorder score. I've been messed up since I was a kid though so if I do have aspergers I'm not sure if I can also be schizoid.

"Does not occur exclusively during the course of schizophrenia, a mood disorder with psychotic features, another psychotic disorder, or a pervasive developmental disorder and is not due to the direct physiological effects of a general medical condition."

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schizoid_personality_disorder

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11 Jan 2012, 9:35 pm

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I know I had a problem with a man once, not because I was open to attack, but I froze instead of knowing how to tell him to stop.

The same thing happened to me.

It happened to me too. That was what happened the first time I had sex. I didn't really know what was going on at first. And then by the time I figured it out, I didn't know how to say no. I just froze and couldn't say anything.

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11 Jan 2012, 9:48 pm

dianthus wrote:

Did he attack you?

There's a big difference between someone sexually attacking you (many victims quite understandably freeze in fear and terror) and perhaps someone who hasn't picked up on your unease or just thinks you're very quiet.

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11 Jan 2012, 10:06 pm

Tequila I've seen your posts around here, and the way you treat other people and I don't want to have anything to do with you. Leave me alone.

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11 Jan 2012, 10:07 pm

dianthus wrote:

Tequila I've seen your posts around here, and the way you treat other people and I don't want to have anything to do with you. Leave me alone.

Fair enough; your loss.

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14 Jan 2012, 1:24 am

Personally I am more vulnerable, because of reasons already given, like not recognizing some signs as quickly. However, since I was young, I knew I had some difficulties, so I developed this extra thick layer of "paranoia". (I suspect my parents also wanted to be triple certain I understood certain dangers.) Not only regarding sex, or people, but some other things I am extra cautious about or avoid. It protects me, but sometimes gets in the way.

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19 Jan 2012, 3:26 am

I understand where this is coming from but I have a switch, I think I'd go postal before anything got too serious. I also punch like a mentally ret*d person.

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