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What do you mean with strategic management in more detail?

What specificly did those students do using strategic management to enhance their position?

Back to bacon: Oven, 400 deg F. Bacon on a rack (a cooking rack, not just the oven rack) over a cookie sheet (to catch the grease). Twenty minutes in the oven, don't need to turn it, perfect bacon each and every time.

Really annoying (how she is being in the OP).

However she is probably telling you almost the same as she was told. It's what people do.

It's good of you to put up with it. Now I see you told her to cut some of it out. That's ok.

Some of it could come in handy someday. I would try and learn some of the better useful parts. Most people when they get older start to want recipes, particularly the older and less common ones from their grandmother's grandmother. It doesn't hurt to start learning them.

I wish either of my parents or other relatives would have taught me. Grandparents and other relatives had little opportunity and I would have resisted in all likelihood, but my life is worse because of it. Being taught basic skills at the youngest age is best. I'm sure by now you do have most of the ones you need. I am just sharing my own experience.

[quote="Erisad" I can cook and clean at a basic level, I'm just not as good at it as they are. Mom and grandma have had more time to do it so of course they're better at it. My bf thinks I clean just fine and am a good cook so I guess that's what matters. [/quote]

You're absolutely right about that, Erisad. Whatever you do, if you do it long enough, will become almost organic. In my opinion, if you can feed yourself and you're still alive, you can cook.

My mother had 6 kids after me. My older sister taught me to cook by putting me to work helping her prepare the family meals. We all pitched in to run the household as we became old enough. Anything fancy I can do, I taught myself. It's not hard to follow a recipe. I tend to think that anything a woman can do, another woman can do. Except Martha. She's unreal. The instructions are all in a book or online someplace.

Can your bf cook and clean?

Does he?

To Erisad,

I wish someone had told me the basics, my first serious boyfriend taught me how to shop & cook, told me bleach is for cleaning toilets and that the fire won't light if you don't clear the ashes.

Basic stuff would have been good to know, but your mum sounds like shes training you out of being an aspie (well trying). She is giving you the message that there is only one "right" way of being an acceptable woman. What a load of bull.

Don't think you are any less of a person for not automatically being what she sees as ideal. This is way more about her than about you. Domestic godesses are long out of fashion.

My parents were reasonably accepting of me as a person but they never tried to teach or influnce me in any way.

There is a happy medium. Somewhere between indifference and controlling.

I get my kids to help out, they learn how to do housework in the process, but I have never told them their future happiness will depend on it! WTF Don't believe her. Theres another agenda going on there.

The older teachings consider women to be subserviant to men. A girl is supposed to be submissive, fragile, weak in body and mind, beautiful but not very smart, depends on her lover etc.Thats why most if not all fairy tell princesses(read the role model) are submissive ,and just sheds tear in captivity or misery waiting for their knight in shining armour.

Now this is present and still this is the mentality of many men and women.

I am a man, and while I understand equal position of husband and wife is a good thing..it is not possible cause they are different.One will subtly or overtly dominate the other most of the time and vice versa.

My take on this is a family should be communal; that is important descisions are to be made by family members with equal right.Do lottery.Do ballot .Do anything but all should have a say.Then the final descision will be made.
As for the chores I think husband and wife should take turns alternate day if they both work.
5:2 for the nonworking people.
As for sex..Do as you wish.I think its better to take turns by alt day with alt weekends in which one will be making the rules and the other will obey.Next day or week the other will get to be the leader.
Just my bit.

Or one choose a movie both will like etc..

The one thing I highly recommend, is to learn how to cook old-fashioned meals if you plan on having children (either you or your boyfriend, whoever you suspect will be doing most of the cooking).

Nutrition is SO important to prevent sickness, bad teeth, bad eyes, and so on... you need to feed your children well until they become adults, so that they can establish a healthy body as they grow up.

Your children should have access to the best nutrition possible, that means taking care of yourself before you even get pregnant.

But besides that, I think it's OK if your house isn't spotless all the time. It's not the end of the world if you have a dirty sink once in a while. People are so busy nowadays, a messy house is expected unless some one stays at home or you hire someone to clean your house. But nutrition for your children should be a priority, health is so important.