Do you feel odd when a guy calls you names like sweetie?

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Dude, I hope you don't have a daughter.

ditto, or that girl's gonna need serious therapy.

there's a difference between 'being nice' and assuming that you deserve to be as beloved as a total stranger's parents or children.



I suggest you re-read from the beginning.



translation: 'If I'm an a**hole, it's your fault.'


*snort*
no reply needed.



Uhh... you think that 'excuse me,' 'miss,' or 'ma'am' are indicative of royalty? I suggest you do a little research.



Formality IS nice. It's saying, 'I'm not going to invade your space until you give me permission to do so.'

LKL, I agree with you way more than Emoal because I don't like it when an older man calls me kid. To me, that's demeans me as a man. But, I do understand where Emoal is coming from though. He comes from an area in which it was acceptable to call women by terms of endearment and the women in his area liked those terms. I have been in a similar predicament with people from different regions or subcultures. In fact, if I go to another area myself I don't pick up the sublities of the subculture there so I end up fumbling worse in a new area than my current area.

The only reason I am on your side more though is because I know how it feels to be demeaned by a term of endearment.

Yuck. I don't consider myself sweet, therefore I do not enjoy being called sweetie, sweetheart, etc..

I am also disgusted when I'm called 'baby'. I find it highly annoying.

I'm engaged and had to ask my fiance several times to drop the pet names. I just got so annoyed whenever I told him something he'd be like "Ok, sweetie" or "Yes, honey" ALL the time!

My new boyfriend sends me texts calling me sweet heart and baby. He told me he thinks I'm sexy and he loves my cheeky smile.

It even bothers me when my BF calls me honey or something like that.

I HAVE A NAME, calling someone babe or dear or something just makes (atleast me) feel like im being categorized with whoever that guy/girl easely could also call honey.

NOT saying someones name seems to me like they are disrespecting you, especially if you've just met.

It makes me aswell feel icky, basically said its like having a conversation with someone who doesnt care for your name identity or personality. Thats why i dont want my BF to call me huney or darling, it feels like a category and i believe a nickname should come from what you think, not what you usually call girls you're trying to get with.

I don't want to be the 2000th girl you've called babe, i want to be me. So use my name.

I've never been comfortable with terms of endearment, like "honey" or "baby". Regardless of gender or how well the person knows me. Nicknames are different, I'm completly comfortable with nicknames. I don't know why, I guess I feel like I'm being "talked down to" when poeple use those words with me. The one I dislike the most is "babe". It just sounds sexist to me.

I hate pet names, luckily my boyfriend does not use any of those words, he calls me by my name. I thank God every day for him.