Zinia wrote:
Quantum_Immortal wrote:
Yong girls follow there instincts. And the instincts are there for a purpose. I thought, that women felt good being dressed up like that (you are the women, maybe you are a bit masculinized aspie women?). In sexually oppressive societies, they have to go out of there way in order to force women not to dress like that.
The thing is, women are all different. We all dress for different and complicated reasons.
I dress based on comfort, what I consider to be feminine and beautiful, and my choices are informed by my socialization as a child. When I was 6 years old I was drawing hearts with high heels and big eyelashes--that's because I learned as a child that those were indications of feminine gender in my culture.
I knew that Minnie Mouse, the female mouse, had eyeshadow, long eyelashes, high heels, and a short skirt. I knew that Betty Boop wore a form fitting red dress and lipstick. I internalized these dress elements as being part of the female gender---but I was not reacting on some kind of mating instinct, just the ingrained instinct to fit in and find my place (and others places) in my society, according to what my society suggested was appropriate for my sex.
It's interesting that you bring up societies which restrict clothing choices for women. Those women have to react to explicit pressure to dress a certain way. But women in post-industrial western societies also react to social pressure. If all women had the urge to dress in Western fashion instinctively, then wouldn't other societies across the globe have adopted the same fashion (edit--before social contact with western culture)? Women in oppressive countries aren't reacting to Western fashion in a vacuum, purely off of instinct....they wouldn't instinctively want to dress in Western styles without being exposed to Western culture.
Humans are animals, but we have giant brains and we take over a decade to mature physically and mentally. We rely very heavily on socialization, more so than any other animal, maybe.
That we are all different, that's done in purpose. Genetic recombination was invented for exactly that. Genetics play a big part in personality.
They are things that are wired. We aren't blank slates. Our bigger brains simply allow us to do more complicated things. We are still animals, and our insticts are important.
..... Being conformist(social pressure), is it self a wired instinct. It can be traced to a lot of animals, down to cockroaches. Giving all the credit to that instinct is exaggerated. And i'm not say it doesn't play a role, just that here its over done.
Our instincts, control our behavior, by controlling what we like, and don't like, they don't control us like bots.
Being an aspie, really means that we are wired differently. That we exist, shows how important the wired stuff is in our head.
It all boils down to interpretation of the facts. That ironically that too is wired to a large extent. Like hyperlexian said, its evolutionary psychology.
18 Jun 2012, 12:54 pm
