Do you want to have children?

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Nope. Not even a wee bit or for even half a second. Until my ovaries can produce a little of kittens, I am out!

I doubt I ever will. My babies have four legs.

All my life i wanted to have children. It's just one of my biggest dreams! If there are things that scare me in life, having children isn't one of them. I just have faith and feel very confident that having children is my job in life. I know a lot of aspiewomen who are scared to have children, or aspiewomen who have children and are very unconfident if they're being a good mother for their children or if they're really up for the job. I do not have these issues. Of course, everyone feels a little bit insecure from time to time, and i have my share in that, but generally, i think i will be the best mom in the world Ofcourse, i first had to find the right man for the job, and at 22 i finely found him. I'm now 29, and my ovaries are now ticking overtime! My insecurity about a lot of things is the main reason we haven't got children yet. In the past, i made a lot of excuses not to begin yet (have to make this relationship work, have to follow my study first, have to have a house first, have to have a stable financial life, have to find a job that fits, and so on and on). Lately, i found out that all those things doesn't matter. Ofcourse, you must have a certain basis, but i realized i was making all of these 'excuses' because i was secretly a little bit overwhelmed that my dream has come closer and closer over the years, and that it is suddenly there yet.

Now, i overcome my fears, and it is about this year that my husband and i decided that we go for it! And now that i decided that i am finally ready, i'm very impatient with it. I'm very impatient with mother nature now, because i finally decided that i'm ready, so i want to have children, and i want to have it now! I have to be carefull that it doesn't become an obsession for me for wanting children so badly. Now i'm thinking like, you only just have 12 shots a year to make a child. I must say, i'm a little bit of irritated by the fact that you just have one shot a month, and even if you know the facts about your ovulation and stuff, it really still is and will be a miracle when it happens. Because we're now 6 months further and still nothing, despite our effort. Now, i read that that's pretty normal, so i try to not think about it too much. A child must occur out of pure love in my opinion, so i try to be as spontaneous as possible. But i must say that i find it a little bit annoying that i don't have full control over this. Sometimes i wish i have a button to release my eggs just when i wanted to Well, i just have to have faith in nature right? Things will come when they come, and there is a time for everything. I truly believe that (but i hope that i will be pregnant very soon!)

No. Hubby and I don't want kids. We like children but do not want to have them if we can't afford it. Kids are a big responsibility and I do not feel cut out to be a parent. I am not very patient.

I have two little children (a 3 year old, and a now 4 month old) and I love them to death. I will never regret being a mother.

I will admit that, before I found myself pregnant with my oldest, I was TERRIFIED of babies, or the idea of becoming a mother, settling down. It seemed like too much commitment, too much responsibility. It seems so scary, and something that I would be unprepared for and destined to fail at, so, why ever do it?

aaaaand, then, I was pregnant. And, so far, it's all turned out all right!

I think that some of what helped was (I know now--was unaware of Asperger's at the time) that as soon as I found out that I was pregnant, I threw myself into it full-forced as a special interest. 24/7, learning absolutely everything I could about babies, children, mother-hood, family-building. I did not come from a good family myself, so I had no role models to build off of to learn mothering behavior, but, in a way, I think that helped. There was little pressure to do things someone else's way, (and my now-husband has respected how intense I am about mothering) and I was free to do all of the research I wanted, to make myself knowledgeable, to do things my way.

There are definitely difficulties. I was a stay at home mother, and then I sort of fell into a routine. Things were stressful, and, with a lovey, clingy baby, there were many days where I was "touched-out" by the end of the day. But, sensory issues aside, motherhood is something that I truly find fulfilling. There is always something more to learn, more to do. I've always found people hard to understand, but in my children, I am learning from the ground up. And, so, I don't find them as difficult to interpret as I do other people.

Now, though, I have to work by necessity, and I am not as happy. As a stay-at-home-mom, I was able to concentrate all of my "being with people" resources on my little family, and I feel that I did very well. But, now, having to deal with people all day, by the time I get home I am overwhelmed and overloaded. I hate it! Not because I dislike being with my children, but because I'm frustrated with myself, and feeling upset for not being capable of giving them all that I want to.

Oh yes! I love kids and babies! I hope to babysit my neighbor's baby sometime in the future. Anyway, I would love to have children of my own. Too bad I don't have a boyfriend at the moment.

I am the exact opposite. As a child, i took care of other children. I told mothers in the supermarket what they were "doing wrong" and could stop random kids' temper tantrums. I thought I was helping at the time. Lol.

God I want kids so bad. I pull my husband through the baby aisles and tell him what I'm going to make our babies wear. (At the same time I wish I never got married. Just more issues. Ah, well, can't be helped.)

I have two kids age 7 and 4.

If I had to go back and do it again I wouldn't have had kids. I didn't know I was Autistic and only found out after having my son who is low functioning autistic. I wish I had focused more on a career and am now going back to school to learn how to do tech support or network admin or possibly systems admin...something along those lines. I also wish I'd have not gotten married and had just had a career....although currently my marriage is going ok.

Oh, hell no.

I have three fish, and they are my babies.
They blow me kisses all the time.