A question for other women..

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Ok, um, I'm not sure if this should go in "adult" or in "women".. I don't consider the topic to be sexual, but men do.. But of course the women's forum really isn't for men anyway. It's really a question directed mostly at other women, so I'll put it here, and if it's better for the adult form, it can be moved, right? I really want responses from women, not men going "ooo, boobies!"

Does anyone else feel a bit, um, ambivalent about your breasts? Men seem to be all about breasts, but I don't get anything out of mine. I don't care how they're touched, fondled, pinched, whatever... they may as well be my toes or my arms or my fingers or my ears. I think I'm generally fairly feminine, I certainly wouldn't want to be a guy or anything.. but my breasts are just totally meaningless to me. If my nipples are hard, it means the room is a bit chilly. As far as I know, cold is the only thing my nipples actually react to. Do nipples get hard by the same process by which one gets goose-bumps?

So my question is this.. do y'all get anything out of your breasts, or are they just for men and babies?
I feel kinda stupid asking this question.. but seriously.. while I wouldn't want to lose them and be even flatter than I already am, there's no particularly enjoyable physical sensation I ever get out of my boobs that couldn't just as easily come from any other body part. I don't get why breasts are sexual. There's the biological aspect of men liking them because it means a woman can feed babies, but that's just for the men. Women want to have nice breasts to look good.. but I also want my wrists, upper arms, and collar bones to look certain ways.. Wanting to have a nice body part doesn't make that body part something that's purely about sex, does it? How is wanting to have feminine breasts different from wanting to have feminine collar bones or feminine wrists?

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I don't get a thing out of it unless someone is using a very firm, kneading touch. My nipples aren't the slightest bit sensitive. I also have a very high pain threshold and actually enjoy some kinds of touching that others find painful, so I kind of associated it with that -- not so much high pain threshold as low tactile sensitivity, I guess.

I think my elbows and the soles of my feet are more sensitive

just a decorative object and not much else.

Ok, so follow-up question...
Is the sexuality of breasts purely a male thing, or is not finding your own breasts to have anything to do with your sexuality something that's more common among female aspies than females in general?
Or could NT women who do consider their breasts in a sexual way be doing so as an element of empathy with their partner, making it kinda a moot point?

(Still wondering on the nipple-hardness thing... men seem to think it means that a woman is turned on. It means I'm cold. I'm not sure I've ever checked my nipples when I'd gotten goosebumps to see if it was the same process.. It seems logical that it could be. Hmm, I'll have to remember to look at my nipples next time I watch a creepy movie. )

I don't care for my breasts. I used to hate them as a teen because they were so big and I hated seeing people with smallar ones because it was so unfair.

I think mom would try and make me feel better by telling me women with smallar boobs have troubles nursing a baby because there isn't enough milk.


Boobs were mostly made for babies because they are to nurse the young. I don't understand why men like them. Maybe it's the same as me liking handsome thin men and aspie men in diapers. Some women like big dicks and some men like small breasts and some like large ones and some like women butts or flat ones.

I'm just glad mine are humongous and stop shirts from fitting me.

I think breasts are aesthetically beautiful but as far as personal sensation? No. For some reason my belly is a major erogenous zone.

I've always thought of my breasts as nothing more than a nuisance. I wish I could say that I at least got some bit of sexual enjoyment from having them touched, but nooooo.....

Yes, I agree!
Maybe partly because guys think that anything they do to breasts must feel good, so it's all a bunch of poking and grabbing with no thought whatsoever put into making it sensual.

Edit: it's occurred to me that women who agree with me would be more inclined to post a response.. so can I ask if there's any woman here who DOES get any physical pleasure from her breasts?

The breasts are actually an erogenous zone, which means their stimulation can lead to arousal. This, like other parts of the anatomy, can vary between people. Here is an abstract: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/16681470



They also become hard when sexual arousal occurs or when they are touched (but cold temperatures can be a common stimulus). This occurs because they fill with blood. Goosebumps, however, are due to tiny erector pilli muscles contracting.

So why is it that none of us here get anything out of it?

Well, I had a rather aggressive biopsy which severed the nerves on one side. Which left me immune to the effects of cold, as well as even number than before. ( I was told I could go on a waiting list and have some stitches put in to "even" things up, went for a piercing which did the same job instead- the lady there was far nicer than the oncologist)

They are just things to be constrained in a bra and give shape to clothes, and worry about turning cancerous in my opinion. Although handy for resting a plate of toast on.

Maggiedoll wrote:

Well sometimes I can feel detached at times you wouldn't ordinarily think someone would detach.

This is not my experience. Cold can cause my nipples to pebble, but sexual arousal rarely does. I can be very aroused otherwise and still have perfectly flat nipples, which confuses the heck out of guys, let me tell you. They never believe me when I tell them my breasts really aren't that much of an erogenous zone for me. Outside of their experience, I guess. Incidentally, it also took quite a bit of work to get them to harden for my daughter to nurse. The two could be related.

They don't know why a percentage of people do not experience arousal from it; it has not been adequately studied. And in general, the interactions between numerous neurotransmitters and sex steroids causing sexual arousal in the brain has not been adequately studied. The authors suggest the link between nipple/breast stimulation and sexual arousal be investigated using fMRI and PET scans to study brain activity.

Mine are small but sensitive. Honestly, I wouldn't want them big, it would give more men a reason to look at them. They've just became a part of who I am, there isn't anything special about them or anything, they just are.

I do like them to be touched but only in the right was other wise it just hurts and pisses me off,