Is this normal for a straight woman?

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I've always been into men, I'm in a serious relationship with a man now who I love, and I've never had any sexual desires for women. I can't even relate when guys talk about liking breasts and all that.

But there's this woman on a show I watch, and she's so pretty that I just like seeing her whenever she's on the screen. I like the look of her face, and she wears stylish clothes. I just think she is so beautiful, that I wish I looked like her but I never will because she has a different look to me.

But I don't think sexy thoughts about her though, I just like her face and admire how pretty she is. Is it normal for straight women to have these sorts of feelings for another woman? I do know that if I were a guy I'd probably fancy her, but as a female I don't feel those feelings.

I'm still straight though, right?

Ps. I'm NOT shaming gay people, I just want to know if this is normal for a straight female, as I've always been straight.

I'm not female but my gender is feminine, so I'll try my best to explain what I think. I think it's normal. You are drawn to her, maybe because of her personality or sense of style. I get that feeling too! But we're not sexually or romantically attracted to them. Seems normal to me.

Ah right, it seems to be an aesthetic or style attraction more than anything. I get that sometimes too!

Normal. Definitely still straight. And likely very feminine.

Not even the usual kind of attraction -- sexual or romantic.

But more like admiration. 'I may want that too' kind of attraction.



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I have just read that a straight female having a crush on another straight female is normal and doesn't mean one is gay. I have no desire for romantic relationships with other women, in fact I don't even think about it. It's just this one particular celebrity, she's just so pretty, just her face is so perfect (no botox or surgery, just naturally beautiful).
I even dreamt of her last night, in the dream she was coming to work with me and I was pleased. I think it's just a phase which will probably pass when I finish watching the series that she stars in.

I have a sexual crush on a Youtuber, Rusty Cage - that gothic guy that sings good songs about death and does that hand stabbing game. Now I do fantasise sexual thoughts about him. He's just so cute.

I agree with the ladies before me: it sounds like you admire her look, gestures, style and maybe tone. More like an idol or "I wish I could be like her" without romantic or sexual overtone.

When I was younger sometimes I liked actresses or singers this way, too and I'm also straight. In my case it was definitely "I'm not so pretty, but I want to" admiration.

Absolutely possible to enjoy “eye candy” of any variety without feeling any sort of romantic or sexual feelings toward the person in question. If those feelings are not present, it does not apply to one’s sexuality or romanticism. Personally I can appreciate eye candy and have enough preference for the male variety to know that would probably be my preference if I was romantic/sexual, but since I don’t experience romantic or sexual feelings toward anyone regardless of how good I might think they look, I still categorize myself as aromantic asexual.

I appreciate beauty wherever I see it. Beautiful artwork, beautiful landscapes, beautiful people.

Beauty is everywhere.

Thinking someone is beautiful, or being interested in their style, in the absence of a desire to be with the person romantically or sexually, doesn't mean that you're gay.

I have very strong feelings for people. Women included. Like you though, all my sexual attractions (butterflies) have been men. I am not clear if that is biology or cultural conditioning. I related very much to the movie Color Purple when the women kiss ---- in the movie I interpreted it as a loving gesture (not sexual), although in the book I think it is sexual relationship. I've been feeling so grateful for my parents that I've kissed them on the lips and I'm not sexually attracted to them, but there is a sensory response. So I consider myself heterosexual although I am attracted to other women (big warm glowing feelings).

I often hear this referred to as aesthetic attraction or appreciation. Similar to how someone might view a piece of art.

I think sexualities are not set in stone these days.

I mostly prefer women there are women on TV who arouse me and I have crushes on and I mostly have had my sexual experiences with women.

But my partner is male and I adore him and love him my entire life is him I could never see myself with any other man if we were to break up for good.

That's OK then. It's just that I have developed an obsession with this woman, and I'm even writing a fictional story about her. I just want to look like her and to be like her. She is so pretty, has a cool fashion sense and has a kind but gullible sort of look. I sometimes even gaze in awe at the screen whenever she comes on.