How flexible would you say you are?

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Everything I've read about Asperger's makes it look as though Aspies always think they are right and can't help but to correct others when they make mistakes or say something that isn't correct. I know that this is of course true for some people but I find it hard to believe that all Aspies can fit into the same mold. Sure, it's natural to have similarities, but there have to be some variances. I am undiagnosed....I feel I have a lot of Aspie traits and being rigid and uncompromising very well could have described me in my younger years, but I feel I've learned. I think it makes sense that many other Aspies could learn from their behavior as well, at least enough to get along with others.

I also wonder how much being a woman has to do this. Hope I'm not saying anything wrong here...

I have a strong desire to correct people when they're blatantly wrong, or when they're just rambling on a subject they don't know about. I can certainly admit when I'm wrong when it comes to things like facts...if I got some fact wrong, like said ferrets are rodents (just popped into my head, lol), I could admit I was wrong about it.

I have a little brother who is ADHD and possibly ODD and he is extremely rigid and never admits he's wrong. He would argue with a tree about the sky being blue.

I still get extremely annoyed when I see/hear incorrect information (especially about my special interests) but I also learned that people don't appreciate it and it is best saved for specific situations or people who know me well and won't get offended. Or I'll tell someone I know about the incident so I have some outlet without coming off as rude. I think learning "coping skills" comes with life experience but is easier for some than others.

Flexibility:
Adjusting to change- I'm improving with time but still like a set schedule but know how to use a phone if something is wrong
Physical flexibility- I like backbends & can get a flat split in a little over a week if I stretch daily

I am not really sure at the moment, how flexible I am. I have a lot of trouble due to certain kinds of ridgity.
I can be seriously affected by change whether I like it or not. I feel like I am becoming more socially rigid as I get older...or it seems like I am less in control of how I react to certain things....but when I look back, I am aware of really bad moments I have had over the years...There were times though when I thought I was flexible.

Physically, I can do a full-lotus..yoga teachers usd to comment on how felxible I was even though I do not practice regularly. I have somewhat prehensile toes and my fingertips bend back pretty far..but um..that is nothing significant...

Being able to adapt socially is something that aspie women tend to do better than aspie men. Tony Attwood mentions this in his book. That is often why they are not as frequently identified by medical professionals.

I was considered to be very flexible for many years. I was even given a little chameleon figure by a friend (as a symbol of me) because she felt I was able to be 'all things to all men'. This wasn't to say that I didn't have strong principles; it's just that I was very empathetic and I could be what people needed me to be for them, and I tried not to be difficult and fussy when it came to sleeping arrangements, working late, and all sorts of other practical things.

I fell apart in 2009 from all the years of bending to everyone's expectations and from living a double life. I was then diagnosed with ADHD and Asperger Syndrome, and I've had many sensory problems over the past few months, all of which have made me a lot more inflexible. I have now learned to be more 'mindful' of what is happening to my mind and body in different situations, and I try to prevent myself from getting into a mess again by trying to ensure that my own needs are met (i.e. enough time to rest and to dance, and the liberty to, take steps to prevent meltdowns and sensory overload) without which I can no longer be my best for others.

After having to deal with people who always think they're right on a daily basis, its probably one of the most annoying things in the world. I can easily apologise and accept i'm wrong, easily. And thats probably part of the reason i'm so intollerant of people who can't.