Women: How to DESTROY your marriage.

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How wives can kill their marriage part one

How eives can kill their marriage part two

How wives can kill their marriage: The final straw

Thanks for the advice!

If he needs to be nagged, he needs to be dumped outright. Actually, if you have no interest in being a momma to him, you shouldn't need to tell him anything. He's a grown up.

If you need to criticize him in public you might want to ask yourself why you picked him. Says more about you than him.

If he needs a short leash, he needs to be dumped. He either wants to be there or not. Don't waste your time with wandering dogs. They always get out.

If you need to be a drama queen, you obviously aren't with the right one. Walk away.

If you hate his friends, don't marry him. Birds of a feather and all that.

If you hate his hobbies, don't get involved in them. If they bother you before hand, assume it will not improve because it will get worse once he stops trying to impress you. Walk away at the first sign unless you can ignore it and it doesn't eat up all your money.

If you need to cut him off sexually, wow. Why did you marry him? Otherwise, never mix emotions and sex. Sex is sex. If you are angry, yell. It's never good to mix anger and sex anyway. Ouch.

Your family and friends do not belong in your marriage. You married him, not them. If it's so bad you need to talk to them, it's over anyway so walk away.

Well apologies are usually empty anyway. If you didn't mean to do it, you wouldn't have done it, let's face it. Saying he's sorry would mean nothing to me, so I don't know why it would mean something to him. It's just a platitude for NTs anyway. They are never really sorry except sorry they got caught.


Zanne's rules for how to keep men happy.

If he's mad - have sex. Men can't do two things at once. If he's still mad, repeat.

If he's sad - have sex. This works in both cases.

If he's distant - dye your hair, wear something completely sexy and different, take him to a hotel and have sex.

If you've forgotten he's there for a few hours and you get the hurt look (pretty obvious if you're noticing it) - have sex. He'll get over it.

Men are easy. If you don't talk much and you're having sex with them, they're happy.

Okay, well if they're OCD too, you can't touch things, move them or break their rules. But that's a different thing.

Obviously the above holds more true for NT guys than some Aspies, but my experience is with NTs only. Sorry guys.

Sex ain't the cure for everything. It works temporarily,
but doesn't solve things for the brooding type like myself.

Mix in playing wargames though, and well, that's enough.

ZanneMarie : agreed on so many levels.

Maybe with an Aspie guy you have to dress up like an Anime character or also do his special interest with him? Figure out how to work his special interest into sex?

With NT men it's definitely this way Calandale. I don't have experience with Aspie guys.

Oh and with anger and sex I figured out what to do. If you are angry with him, dress in black leather and take a riding crop to him before sex. You'll both get what you want.

I have no idea which night is garbage night and I've never bought any furniture for the house. I don't even know where he got the furniture in our house.


Hmmm Maybe this is why we haven't hit these issues.

Definitely agree with Zanne. Every guy I've ever met will put up with most anything as long as they're getting really good sex on a regular basis. It's the only reason I've been able to maintain a relationship with a man - I come really easily and it makes them feel like their dick is really special. I'm such a s**t at everything else this is my only redeeming quality.

I'm in such a rotten mood today I'm just saying whatever. Will probably be banned by the end of the day.

LOL That was funny. It could be an Estrogen thing. I swear that stuff is the best thing.

Just don't let your kids read it!

Yep, I agree w/ Zanne and Alyssa. If your man is happy after having sex a few times, then the issues don't run deep enough to cause major problems. If he refuses sex or is still mad/unhappy afterwards, you've got problems. ;)

Once again from the aspie male perspective (and insane probably to boot),
the one really awful relationship that I've ever had was pretty much based
on this premise. There were huge underlying issues (infidelity, nagging, an
unwillingness of my partner to let me be when angry), and she realized that
they could be avoided by sex. The sex with her was the best that I've ever
had, on many different levels. And it kept me around despite all of the problems;
made me feel tremendously trapped most of the time. Really ended up as an
ugly situation, all across the line.