got a queastion avout girls and guys

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got a queastion but not sure if its a stupid queastion
to ask
well i going to ask anyway is harder for guys or girl to talk to girls /guys?

cause i find every relationship with friend i find it hard to speak to them
i feel they have already a mind set of what i am like
like seriously i havent even had a gf
i find that its harder to talk to girls
cause the guy has to ask the girl out
most of the time

I think it depends on the person.

There are many guys who are absolutely terrified to speak to girls and then there are girls who really have no idea what to say to a guy.

I don't think there is a general "easier".

It depends on the person. If we were to speak in general for instance I don't think it's any easier to talk to one or the other, just some people are easier to talk. I think most people would say I am hard to talk to, because I have trouble knowing when to respond appropriately to keep a conversation going.

However, I think what you may be encountering is if you are interested in the other person or like them it is harder to stay collected when you try to talk to them than somebody you are not interested in. This is probably the case for both sexes. From what I can tell the people who act like they are not nervous when they are approaching somebody they like are acting really fake they have practiced it so much.

I'll also say that I'm very nervous talking to guys I like (and fairly shy in general) but I don't mind if a guy approaches me and he's visibly nervous. It's kind of cute and I know what he feels like and probably would cut him more slack than some guy with a slick line and overconfident manner. If somebody blows you off because you are acting nervous asking them out, they're probably not worth your time anyway.

I'm more shy talking to guys, and I am a girl.
However, that is just because there might be a possibility of romance, and that kinda weirds me out. (not that I don't want it someday, but it just feels way to weird, like I am too young or something)

Anyways, it depends on the motives.
Guys are more prone to be shy because they are afraid of commitment.
Girls are more prone to be shy because they are afraid of what the guy will think of her.
(In a broad sense)

Both the sexes are shy and bold, and you can't really generalize and say that one sex is more shy than the other.

I think it depends on the individual, and is not inherently more difficult for either sex. It's not something I ever had a problem with (I'm female). I've initiated conversations and asked guys out. It's not something I do often, since I'm not much interested in most people, but I feel no fear when I do. In fact, I find it much easier to talk to someone I'm interested in than someone I'm not. I might start feeling some fear if I ever experience instant rejection, but I suppose I'll find out when the time comes.