Online Predators-a warning

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On another chat forum I recently had a really scary experience. I was targeted by a cyber stalker. I have a tendency to think most people act very strange, so this guy had to get really obviously obsessed before I realized I needed help. I asked a friend to read the emails and twitter messages and chat logs and let me know if I was overreacting, and she was horrified.

He tracked every time I came in the room, if he had to go to work he would log the chat so that if I said anything he could read everything and comment on it later. He replied to everything I said on twitter. He sent me messages and emails about love and jealousy and would be very angry if I were doing something other than waiting in the chat to talk to him, including going to work. He sent threats, he sent angry messages when I went to a sports bar with my husband one night. He told me he was going to own my soul. The final straw was when a friend died of cancer and he suggested that if I were sadistically whipped the physical pain might heal my emotional pain.

I told him when he first seemed too clingy exactly what he was doing that was stalker behavior and told him to stop, but it only escalated. I was afraid of doing anything rude that might offend him and let it go on way too long before I asked a NT to verify that I was not overreacting. So now I have a gun in my home and never leave without pepper spray in my hand.

I had talked openly about being an aspie, and I think from that he pegged me as an easy target. I want everyone else to be careful, even from a distance these people can be scary and dangerous. Don't be afraid to offend someone if you suspect they might be a predator, and ask someone who is better at deciphering people's behavior to help you if you're not certain. There have been people injured or killed by stalkers, a little embarrassment is worth the risk in order to be safe.

I'm so sorry that happened to you. That is frightening! I've had my own experience with a stalker who stalked both in real life and online and it affected every part of my life. Thank you for sharing your story and providing a warning. It's good information.

Yup, I've had something akin to this.
The "whipped" remark really strikes a memory-chord.

I tend to have a nutter radar detector so try to block 'em early. Sometimes it's not that simple or you ignore your gut instinct (we aren't perfect)

Sorry that happened to you, it's beyond nutty. Block block and block and if all else fails go to the cops.

I don't think that for you.. but i had experiences one person targeted me like stalker. How some people like to tell stories how poor they been stalked. I will tell you what happen me, i will try to be shorter: Before more than 1 year i met on chat one man, for more than 2 months he said that like chat with me and my messages.. one day he said that he like only i page him, he will never page me more for chat.. and than one day he said if i write him, he has my ip and will send all my messages to police, that was suprise for me, he could simply said me that he don't like contact with me, or simple block me, than i didn't write him more than 2 months, but one day he was online and i how forgot his behavior with me,i wrote him, he was friendly than, and after 1 months he started again ignore me. Is this person uses me to tell around how has stalker, or he makes joke with me?! I'm really confused. My husband knows and said me that he isn't nice and i better never write him more, but.. always when he is online, i have in mind those beautiful 2 months friendship and write him again. (Sorry for my English)