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Women, did you ever peg an aspie guy as obviously gay and then found out he wasn't?

not as far as i know.

No. I peg aspie guys as aspie guys. I do not confuse complex, nuanced and varied aspie traits with narrow, unrealistic gay stereotypes. Nor do I go around wondering what other people's sexual orientation might be. Generally I don't give a flying crap what someone's sexual orientation might be. If they want to tell me, fine, but otherwise, it's not any of my business and I have better things to think about.

I peg them more as childish rather than gay when I meet an Aspie male. Then again, some guys never really grow up.

No, for 1 I dont always know for sure whos aspie and whos not. As for any guys that Ive thought were aspie, ive never thought they were gay. I have pegged a few NTs guys werent gay as gay.

No, but I have gotten confused by an aspie guy who was gay. I wasn't hitting on him or expressing an interest or anything, but something felt different, I hadn't met a lot of people with AS before so I wasn't sure if we were just so different. Turns out nope, that was gaydar and aspi-sense getting confused over both their alarms going off at the same time.

Male here. Have been mistaken as gay on occasion by both guys and girls. I'm thinking this is due to missing or not properly engaging with flirting cues, and go back to talking 'boys toys' - computers, cars, politics, science, wars etc with male colleagues; therefore appearing interested in men rather than women.

This isn't due to sexuality, it's due to understanding the language people speak, and being in a comfort zone.

Is this the experience when mistaking a male aspie as gay?

Thank you VERY much Dave-the-Aussie!! You've cleared things up a lot for me. Thanks

You're welcome. Always open to questions, and like to help people.