Have you ever asked anyone if you're pretty?

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If that's a weird question, I apologize. I was having thoughts earlier today that I don't put a voice to, and it led me to wondering if anyone asks people if they're pretty. I've seen it on television but that's not really a reflection on real life. A friend once asked me in high school if she was "average" because a mutual friend had told her she was... but I still feel like that's a different question and one that had cause.

I don't really know if I'm pretty. I assume I am because people have told me here and there ... and there still seems to be people who are attracted to me. But I've never asked. Nobody who could be considered objective has decided if I am pretty by mainstream standards. Have any one of you actually asked? The guys do it frequently here on the forum so they obviously have no problem gathering up a consensus. I don't know. I mean, how would you even ask somebody that?

Sorry, again, for this being weird; but, I have no idea.

I have never once asked another person if they thought that I was pretty. I would feel weird doing so.

That's what I thought.

I've never asked anyone, I was always afraid of the answer. people have voluntarily called me 'cute', which I always think of as the word that people use when 'pretty' isn't really accurate.

On a barely related note, I've been twice asked out by strangers when I was fully engaged in one of my special interests--gardening. I sincerely believe that happiness and confidence can make us attractive, and I guess even though I was grimy and wind-blown I must have come across as being very content and appealing. I also have been described as being beautiful in photos taken of me in my garden and basking in the sun.

That makes a lot of sense. I'm more attracted to people when they seem happy and confident. Plus, being outdoors and active would give you a healthier glow so I'm sure you are more attractive than if you were sitting on the coach eating a bag of chips. It seems logical.

I have never asked. I just assume I'm a fabulous goddess and let others develop their own views about me in private. "Pretty" annoys me a little bit really. I don't know if I want to be "pretty." Maybe that's weird!

I have, but it wasn't because I wanted them to say I was. I was curious about their behavior towards me.

I don't ask other people. I know my face (without makeup) doesn't look pretty, only acceptable, but my body is pretty decent. I look good in most clothes. So overall I probably score an average to slightly above average. Maybe a point or two for looking young for my age.

DH thinks I'm pretty, but of course he's biased. I'm quite satisfied with being average. I hope if I misjudged my attractiveness, at least my high confidence would make me more attractive.

That's not weird. I feel the same way about "cute". That's an interesting topic.

Me too. I'm funny with words. When I moved to this new country I learned people called women "birds". For some reason that annoyed me, but I have never been annoyed by "chick" which is probably even more offensive than birds.

I like the word "attractive." Someone called me "pretty" (based on a great angle photo ) recently and I cringed a little then I had to feign the whole gracious reciprocation thing which I'm also not good at. The last time someone complimented my outfit instead of responding with thanks I told the person the pants were just men's pajama bottoms that I bought for $10. Then she said, "Oh you're not supposed to tell people THAT."

I've asked in the past if I'm ugly, I don't know about pretty. But I don't ask it anymore because I already know the answer so why do I need to hear it from others? What do I need to hear?

I've asked if I'm pretty, beautiful, ugly, etc.
I'll ask boyfriends or close friends, and I just ask straight out.

I have to ask because I really have no idea what I look like - the joys of body dysmorphia mean that what I see in the mirror can vary greatly so I can be ugly one day but beautiful the next, there are obviously people who find me attractive but then there are others who seem repulsed by how I look, and in photo's I'm always ugly but everyone agrees photo's of me never actually look like me.

Although I never really trust what other people say, most people will not be honest if they do think you're ugly, least of all friends...and what my friends consider pretty is different to the mainstream - but in all fairness round here most people would consider Jordan to be pretty

I did once when I was 14, but it was more as a joke and I didn't expect anyone to give me a serious answer. The answer was that I would be prettier if I showed of my body more. And it wasn't even a guy who said it. Nowadays I never ask anyone if I'm pretty, because I don't want another stupid answer like that and because I already know the answer, which is that I'm not pretty.

I probably have, thought I can't think of a time. I do ask my husband, "How do I look?" before we go out, to give him the chance to point out if my hair is crazy (I have a double cowlick and can't see if the back is a mess) or to suggest I change my clothes. I don't expect him to answer, "Pretty," though! He's not one for compliments, so when he does tell me I look great, it's really special.

No and I wouldn't. Even if I would want to know I don't think most people would understand that you might actually want an honest opinion but think you're fishing for compliments or feel embarrassed to say if they think you're not. Basically they'd think you're weird or dishonest and also feel uncomfortable themselves.

i do not care if i am "pretty".
"prettiness" is an auxiliary attribute that means little to me. i think....
uh oh this is the woman's thread so see ya later