Am I a horrible person...

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for being annoyed by male aspies? Their social skills are even worse than that of the female aspies I know and frankly they scare me a bit. I know one for example that won't stop touching me, he touches my neck and my arms without asking and he doesn't seem to understand that it makes me incredibly uncomfortable. Sometimes I'm afraid that he's going to do more than just touch me because he isn't going to understand that it's not okay.

I shouldn't judge because as an aspie my social skills are not so good either, but many male aspies seem to have zero social skills. At least I have some social skills, I had to learn them because they didn't come naturally, but at least I have some.
I don't think I could ever date an aspie guy, they make me too uncomfortable and some are right out mean without even understanding why it's not okay.

Am I an horrible person for not wanting to date fellow aspies? All the wifes of aspies that I know are miserable and their husbands seem totally oblivious. I've been battling depression my whole life and I just want a guy that makes me happy

I know what you mean, hun, and you're not a horrible person. I go to school with aspie men, and they do the touching thing with me too. I feel uncomfortable around them too.

You can & will find someone else I believe in you

At least its not as bad as my aspie male friend, he decided to SIT on me >.<
He believes its his God Given Gift to teach me Social skills >.<
But i get him back with unwanted hugs when im in an over happy mood.
I find the best way to deal with a male aspie who doesnt understand the "No Touch" or is annoying the bageebers out of you is to hug him... he'll either shrug you off or get mad... then you say "thats how I feel when you keep touching me."

I think that there are Aspie males who are higher on the spectrum that do not behave that way. I am engaged to an Aspie guy who would never, ever touch me without my permission. He can't be the only one! It's OK to feel apprehensive about Aspie males; I have had my feelings hurt by a few who were not aware that their comments and actions were hurtful and/or insulting. Just remember that all Aspies are not the same.