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I'm not sure where to write, but I really am in need of support. I will do my best to address to the problem but it's not going to be easy to be clear.
I'm going through a very hard time, I'm constantly nervous and anxious, interaction has become almost impossible to control, I tend to spring and meltdown for things i myself consider not worthy attention (like jokes), I'm having more truble then usual focussing (on things other then my special interests), my neighbour calling from outside to chat gets silence as an answer (whereas I usually take a deep breath and dedicate her some time), my relationship with my bf is going kinda well only because he's being extremely patient with me because he recognizes I'm going through a difficult time.
Work is a nightmare, too much to do, too many people yelling, too much truble and too much interaction. I've gotten to the point of running out of a supermarket because the woman behind me at the cashier's desk was standing too close. I hardly talk to my parents on the phone.
I think it's all due to the "work" part I just wrote... to sum up I feel like being on the edge of something, a huge meltdown? explosion? I don't know, it simply feels like it's too much. The only moment when I feel some relief is when I sleep. Whatever my bf decides to do I always hope it doesn't require interaction, since he's introverted it often doesn't require interaction, but this makes me feel bad for guilt feeling for the need not to interact and for the lack of interaction... overwhelmed is the only word that comes to my mind to describe the general feeling.
Any kind of support would be appreciated, just please don't leave me alone.

do you have any vacation time owed you?

Hi.
This is what I can suggest: it's time to prioritise the things in your life, and cut out some major stressors. Be careful not to cut out things that are also crucial for you. For example, work. Work can be stressful, but unemployment is a lot more stressful, so don't cut it, just try to come up with ways of making it less stressful for you. Same as for relationships.

The main thing is, you need time for yourself, to do your special interests, time where you allow yourself to zone out as much as you need. Whatever makes you feel good, is good for you (not drugs though). For example I recently went to the library and re-read the same series of books that I used to love as a teenager. Made me smile.

So, so far it's prioritizing to reduce stress and to make time for yourself. You are more important than your neighbour in this instance. Just don't make any crucial decisions until you are feeling better (learned that one from experience!)

Neurologically what is going on, is that you are under constant chemical stress in your brain. While you are under stress, you can't process the changes and new things that are going on for you at the moment. Give your brain a rest with plenty of good rest and favourite activities. Exercise if it helps.

Now would also be the time to find a good psychologist. What the psychologist can do for you is teach you a range of coping strategies to practice at home, for example, different relaxation techniques. Look into mindfulness meditation.. They can also do talk therapy if there's things you need to work through; they have ways of responding that can be very helpful and promote healing.

Your GP may be able to give you something for the anxiety and he can also assess you for depression. Don't take any anti-depressants if you think you may be bipolar, but most people are fine with them and after a couple of weeks are feeling much better. If you suspect you have a major mental illness get a referral to a psychiatrist. They are very nice doctors, and it helps if you try to communicate as clearly as possible with them, perhaps by preparing some few notes beforehand.

Good luck! Remember, deep breath, fill your lungs with air. One thing at a time. Plenty of time to do it in.