What type of man do you like?

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I am just being curious here and I would like to add that this thread is for ladies only.

I myself am not attracted to men who are too overbearing and dominant but other than that I like these very masculine, testosterone filled guys. Preferably the quiet type. Intelligence, sweetness and a sense of humour are certainly important but I am an admirer of fysical strenght as well and it's even better when it shows. Allthough the body builder is a definite NO NO for me. I just don't feel attracted to sensitive,frail guys with, in my severely limited view, too many feminine character traits.

I am aware of the fact that men like that are probably not a good match for me and that I am limiting myself by not being open to other types of men but that is how things stand. They don't even have to be incredible handsome but they must have that special something I find attractive and am unable to describe.

Exterior wise, I like athletic and healthy looking men, but to me what matters more is the person inside and how true they are. A lot of people fake act to get sex or get married to someone, then afterward they change and show their true colors which might be the opposite of what they first presented. It's nice to find someone who looks good, but that isn't always an option, especially when you are like me and 40 years old, when people start getting older and probably fatter looking. By now all the good looking people near my age are probably already taken.

I am not into 'hypermasculine', pushy, arrogant, narcissistic, lying, mean, thuggish men.

I am more drawn to men who are honest, smart, nice (I do not mean an ass kiss or weak), with some reasoning ability, nerdy, maybe into athletics, who have integrity, and some patience (no one without patience will want to live with me), loyal, not too rash and getting himself hurt, not into drugs, does not do things that overload my sensory problems. I think I am the type of person who is more attracted to the kind of people who would also make good friends with me. I am not much drawn to opposite end personalities. There would be too much clashing and conflict. I don't need the added unnecessary stress.

Men with strong wills, the ability to compromise and the proclivity to think deeply, essentially: smart, strong-minded but able to compromise given a good reason to do so.

I'm also fond of men who aren't so.. serious... about their gender, or who are motivated to explore gender instead of being obsessed with being manly men.

And nerds. Nerdy dudes, I am into you.

And finally, quieter men, but that has to do with the need for silence.

I went with the scrawny math, physics, and statistics nerd with a thing for animals.

Must love animals & have an interest in the natural world. (deal breaker if he doesn't)
I don't like control freaks. I run @ the tiniest whiff of control. (I've got control of myself, thanks! I don't need yours. Absolute deal breaker.)
I don't like 'Players". If he is f**king one or more other women, it's a deal breaker.
Kindness!! !! !!
Honesty & some inner strength, & back bone.
Ability to think & act out of the box. An interest in trying new things.
A sense of humour & the ironic.
A sense of fair play.
Emotional maturity & the confidence to act immature when you feel like it.
No grudge holding, esp. over petty things.
Be Yourself! If I like you for being you, don't try to be somebody else.

Physical stuff-
Clean! Nothing smells better than a clean man!
I like guys to be as tall or a taller than I.
A full head of hair that you take care of. I Really have a hard time with bald...sorry but I do.
Not fond of overweight guys. A few extra pounds is fine, but too many isn't good.
Some interest in clothes, & what looks good on you.

I'm not really attracted to men. I do like spending time around guys who are intelligent and respect me.

cute
sweet
non controlling
non dominating
talkative
romantic
average looking
intelligent
non womanising
teetotaller
is the type of guy i like

Most guys scare me. Get really anxious around guys. Not attracted to the normal guys that other girls are attracted to, people will be like watching a tv show and be like oh he is so cute and I don't find him attractive.

The guys I am attracted to are usually non Caucasians , I am Caucasian. I think all the guys in my life that I have been attracted to in my life ( which aren't that many) accept like one have been either from another country or Canadian born but parents from another country.

A lot of times I go with a guy who has similar interest to me rather than looks. Also like a guy who is not to touchy but more wants to talk rather then have intimate relationship.
A lot of times when NT girls are talking about guys I get confused and overwhelmed and hate talking about it because they will be like oh so and so is cute and talking about all this stuff they are attracted to in a guy and I'm like it makes no sense to me. One time I was somewhere, where there were ladies in there 40-50s and they were talking about Harrison Ford, and other actors that are older, and I'm like I don't get it at all, I was thinking why are we talking about this, this is boring.

I tend to be attracted to tall, quiet, gentle, androgynous pretty boys. Good hygiene and a surprisingly dark sense of humor. Mature men who can take care of themselves and do not need to rely on me to do chores and manage their life. A compassionate and patient guy who considers everyone, not juat himself. Someone who reads books, and we can talk about the books we've read together. Someone who considers social issues and respects me as their intellectual equal. They are my best friend first, and a lover second. I don't care about sexual prowess. I can walk them through that wnen it comes to that.

I get very turned off by hypermasculinity and I'm completely indifferent to things like muscle mass and social status. I love a guy who shares my interests for things like science, or video games, and can hold a conversation with me. I don't like it when a guy is too touchy with me. Don't like guys too caught up in being masculine to be themselves. Sometimes I just want to talk and hang out. I also feel uncomfortable when people ask me about celebrity crushes because I honestly have none but no one believes me. And the boys I find attractive aren't considered conventionally handsome or appealing so I feel awkward talking about men I find sexually appealing. And I also just feel bored.

Physically I don't like overly large muscly men. Fit and tone is nice, but I like for them to be on the slender side. I don't like super masculine features at all.

Not big on blonde hair and blue eyes either. I'd date a fair haired blue eyed man if he had a good personality but I have always been drawn to dark eyes and hair. I think Asians are the most gorgeous people on earth, followed closely by Native Americans.

As far as who he is I like quit intellectuals with a good sense of humor. He has to have respect for the Earth and respect for himself and others. He needs to have a love of science and has to love animals and children. He needs integrity and character and a calm, caring disposition.

Physically:
Anything except body-builder type or morbidly obese is fine with me.
Tattoos are a plus.
Taller than me, but that's not hard, I'm only 5'.
Long hair.
Kinda crooked teeth. Not too messy, but I think crooked teeth are cute.
Prefer dark hair and green eyes, but it doesn't matter much.
Nice arms.

Personality:
At least relatively liberal and forward-thinking and open-minded.
Progressive views on women and relationships in general.
Comfortable with his sexuality.
Kind, especially to those who can do nothing for him, especially children.
Not a huge partier/heavy drinker/drug user.
Intelligent and passionate about learning.
Willing to try new things (both in the bedroom and in life in general).
Not controlling or belittling.
Has goals and works towards them.

I *like* all types of men, as in I find all types of people in general fascinating and intriguing, however, if you are actually asking about what type of man I am sexually attracted to, the answer is - I have no clue. None.

Looking back there seems to be a complete mix of all sorts of people but they always have that special chemistry that cannot be described but only felt. So, this makes online dating completely pointless for me as what I am looking for cannot be distilled into a formula. I have to say that couple of times I had been very unfortunate to try and hook up with friends, figuring that because I liked them so much and they liked me so much it would work out, but the chemistry wasn't there so that was devastating. If anyone has a hack for checking for chemistry online, please let me know.

Personality:
has the confidence to be himself (but isn't conceited)
funny
kind/ honest
loyal
likes to learn/ try new things
must like animals, anime, and travel
understanding (or tries to be most times)
has at least some sense of adventure
is passionate about what he does/ likes

Physical:
tall (I'm short so it shouldn't be that hard)
a little muscular
good hygiene
decent style (by that I mean not wearing the same shirt 3 days in a row)
and (look wise) is at least a 7 out of 10 on my scale (not even going to try to list that because it varies so much)

In all, someone that I can be myself around (and vice versa), who makes me laugh, who I can share new experiences with, and someone I find physically attractive.

I don't even know. I just feel so f*****g bad about myself.

I like a man who looks like a woman

Not a man lover here.