22 Things a Woman With Asperger's Wants Her Partner to Know

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Anyone here read the book? It summarized a lot of things that I do and how I act in relationships. Did any of you get your partners to read it too? How did you go about doing so? Did it help?

I've read the book. It was pretty good and an easy read. I don't have a partner so I instead read it to my parents (yes I read books to my parents), and they found some of it useful information. But the book I really recommend is "the girl with the curly hair". I can relate to her story and feelings about 99% of the time and my parents said about it "are you sure you didn't write this book?!", so it was a fun book to read for all of us.

Oh, thanks for the recommendation. Is it about aspergers?

You're welcome! Yes, it's about aspergers. I don't know where you live but you can only buy her paperback book if you live in the UK, but in the USA, you can buy her kindle version book. I hope you enjoy it.

I think I may download it later. Thank you!

This was the first book on Aspergers that I found at the library, just as I was suspecting this was my issue, and before I got my diagnosis. I spent half the book in tears, just going "oh my god, that's me, finally I understand".

I had my husband read it too. He was reluctant, and didn't believe I had Aspergers. I told him that as it was such a small book, it wouldn't take him long, and it really would mean a lot to me if he read it. As he read, he recognized a lot of things that he thought were just quirks of mine. I think reading the book helped us both. There were things that I had never been able to explain, and suddenly someone had written it out clearly for me. We both understand my issues and how to deal with them a lot better now.

I would recommend this book to anyone.

I want my husband to read it too. He's not a big reader and I know it's not a big book. I will still try and get him to read it though.

when i saw this at barnes and nobles I immediately bought it. he said it was like an owners manual for me . he said he already understood me , but I think the information cleared things up for him. It made me happy that their was a book for an as female / nt relationship. which is hard to find.

can you summarize those 22 things? And also what parts do you identified with the most?

I'm sorry, I don't have the book. I got it out of the library more than a year ago.

I honestly can't remember the points they listed, I just remember that it seemed to explain a lot of stuff about me very well, and gave some very useful insights. I suggest you check out your local library and see if they can order it in for you.

unfortunately here in Brazil I can't find any of those books, I haven't find a single book about aspergers so far

Sorry to hear that. Next time I see the book at the library I will try to summarise some of the stuff for you. In the meantime, if you read some of the reviews on Amazon it will give you a few ideas of some of the things in there. I hope that helps a little bit anyway.

Kindle version
http://www.amazon.com/Things-Woman-Aspe ... er+to+know

Book version
http://www.amazon.com/Things-Woman-Aspe ... er+to+know

I am currently reading it When I have finished it I will return with an opinion

linatet - I don't know if you are able to access the books on amazon.com but if you go to the link moomingirl gave, the image of the book should say 'look inside' on it. If you click 'look inside' it should allow you to see a few of the pages, including the contents page which gives the list of the 22 things if you are interested. Not all of them are self explanatory I found (some have required me to read the chapter to understand what the chapter title was referring to), but that list gives you an idea and I can hopefully provide more detail once I've read my copy.

Oh, thanks for your comment Gizalba, I had completely forgotten about the 'look inside' function.

I read it and felt like it described me 90% of the time. I read the book to my boyfriend a few chapters a night until we finished it so he could get a sense of what's in my head (they are short: 3-5 pages each). He laughed every time I came across a new trait Rudy described --they all fit me to a T.

I thought it was a great book. Only one of its kind I've found.

Thanks girls!