A really really really embarrassing subject

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I just have to ask this, although this feels really REALLY embarrassing.

First of all, YES GIRLS DO FART OK!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !!
I hardly ever have problems with gas, but I have slept at my new boyfriend's twice and both those times I was full of gas, which gave me cramps in the end. No it isn't anything to do with what I eat because it starts building up before I get to his and I have something to eat before I get there but I just eat the same type of food I normally eat anyway. With me, certain foods making you fart is just a myth - I ate 2 apples and drank a glass of milk the other day and didn't have gas at all that night or the next day, etc.

I can tell that it's not exactly any foods giving me gas when I sleep over my boyfriend's because when I do it in the toilet it is completely odorless. I feel safe and happy with my boyfriend so I don't see why it would be nerves, plus I'm on antidepressants which do help to relax me anyway, and he is somebody I can generally be myself with. This week-end I'm sleeping over his again, but his brother is staying too, and I really can't sit there holding gas in and getting those cramps again. I know a lot of careless people will go ''oh just fart away, if he doesn't like it then go find another boyfriend!'' because it isn't always as simple as that. I am polite and shy, and farting isn't something I do in front of people - especially at least during the first few months of dating. It's not really what he thinks, it's how I feel about it myself. He's very polite too and I haven't heard/smelt him fart yet, not even when he's asleep! Maybe he takes something for gas, I don't know. But I know I can't because I am on the contraceptive pill and antidepressants and I read somewhere that meds that help with gas can also affect the way other meds like antidepressants work, and I don't want that.

Really, are there other easy home remedies I can try? Or perhaps even some breathing/swallowing exercises? Or won't that work? There must be a way, this is getting weird. Once again, I am embarrassed to ask this but can't find any decent answers on Google, and I feel too embarrassed to talk to anyone face to face about it, including the doctor. I have always been really, really shy about gas.

Oh, and this is not a fart joke thread, I am being serious, and no boring two-word answers, I want helpful answers or people who can relate, that helps too. Thanks friends.

Fart before you go over.
Use the bathroom, turn on the fan or the tap, open the window.
Don't sit there and let it build up.


Wait 2 months and it wont be so embarrassing. (No! don't wait two months to fart! You'll explode! Two months in the relationship.)

I agree just go to the bathroom and do it while you cough or flush the toilet or something.

There was a product called Beano here in the states maybe other places too. Some people swore by it.

I do, but (OK this is really embarrassing but got to say it ) I go into the toilet and sit for a few minutes and nothing comes out, then I stand for a bit and still nothing, and then when I go back into the sitting-room I feel it coming. Oh, so annoying!! !! ! I wish there was a type of food like a type of biscuit or something what you can eat what settles the stomach but doesn't affect other tablets.

Yet when I am at home in my own bed, no gas at all. I wish I could be like that when I'm with my new boyfriend.

Maybe it's not gas!

Maybe you're nervous.
Maybe you're horny.

Maybe it's not, but I think it is. It just wants to come out at the wrong time, then won't come out at the right time and place, which is the toilet. I really want a bath with him, and gas is harder to hold in when you're in water.......it will be embarrassing. I wish there was a way I could cure this. It's also harder to have sex too, with such a painful stomach.

I wonder if it's being caused by gulping air while talking or laughing, and you don't realize you're swallowing air? When I was younger I got "gassier" when I was socializing a lot, because even though I thought I was perfectly comfortable and handling the socializing, I started to be aware that I still must have had some nervousness, because I was getting a bad habit of swallowing air during I guess breathing in to speak. I'm not even really sure how or when I was doing so much air-gulping but I did, and got gassy because of it.

That might be what's causing yours too, even though you feel comfortable socially around your boyfriend. Try an experiment where you pay close attention to how you're talking and laughing -- you might find that you are swallowing air at times. I got over it by becoming aware of it.

Another tip with gas -- you may already be a good food-chewer, but just to mention it, not chewing one's food thoroughly can cause gas and bloating. Sometimes when we are eating on the run we bolt the food down, and all that undigested food forms more gases in the gut as it breaks down. When you chew really, really well, your stomach has less work to do breaking the particles down.

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Some herbal teas are supposed to be good for gas. Peppermint I think and nettle?

and chamomile tea.

i, too, bet you are swallowing air. the gas has to come from somewhere. i had a stressful job, and by the end of the day, i would have terrible gas.

You say your boyfriend doesn't fart when you are around. Maybe he is experiencing the same as you? Many people don't want to fart or burp when the opposite sex is around. But I've found when it's just men they will "fart for effect", they try to make it as loud as possible. Burps too. I think most guys realise girls fart and burp too. Just make a joke out of it

I have had help from ginger in tea. If you steep it a while it can be pretty spicy, but oddly it has the opposite effect inside of us; it's an anti-inflammatory. Caraway seeds or extract (from a health food type store) is an old remedy for gas.
Another helpful activity is I go for a walk or better yet a jog, all the gas that's in can come out. Maybe go for some exercise before being together?

Thanks for the answers. I think it might be some sort of nerves, and that I'm swallowing air without realising it, like what some of the posters here have mentioned. I'm on antidepressants, which help lessen emotions but I still might be getting a little nervous inside, which could be causing the gas. I do want to take something for settling stomachs but I never know if I should take it or not if I'm on other medications.

It's so not like me to get gassy. I don't often suffer with bowel issues at all, but when it comes to sleeping over my boyfriend's, I suddenly develop IBS. I hate it, it's so embarrassing.

I don't drink tea, but I heard lemon in water can help with gas, is this true?

Fennel tea! I'm not crazy about the chewing of them but I love me a cuppa fennel tea.. look up caraway seed tea as well!

http://flatulencecures.com/using-fennel ... s-bloating

Everybody farts. If there were somebody in the world who genuinely didn't fart, there would probably be something seriously wrong with them. I don't know where this silly idea about girls not farting has come from, but of course it's ridiculous.

I share your attitude about wanting to be polite in front of others, and I also tend to feel mortified if I fart in front of other people, but if you are in a relationship with a fellow human being, sooner or later both of you are going to have to hear (and smell) each other fart.

It is inevitable that you will also need to burp, sneeze, cough, hiccup, etc. Holding these things in is bad for your health. You need to let them out.

You might as well get it over with. Just fart in front of him.

It may not even make a noise. It might just smell bad.

Oh, and farting in the bath is rather hilarious. I know it smells bad, but it makes amusing bubbles. Try to see the funny side. I know you say you are very, very shy about it, but try to see it from another perspective and realise that, as well as being embarrassing, it's also funny. The reason that it's funny is precisely because it is so embarrassing and stinky!

Hopefully the guy will not find it gross, and will just think it's funny. The best way (in my experience) to deal with farting in front of a love interest is to laugh the farts off and apologise profusely, and turn it into a huge joke.

Just remember the farting isn't your fault. It's just your body's way of expelling waste. The gases coming out are waste gases. You need to expel them because holding them in for too long will be bad for your health. Of course you know all of this, and it probably won't help you at all to be told it, but I just want to try and reassure you that everybody farts. Just because you may need to fart in front of your boyfriend sometimes doesn't make you any less "ladylike" or anything like that. It just means you're human.

I know all that, but I still know that I will feel embarrassed. I haven't heard or smelt him fart yet, even when he's asleep. It would be OK if the gas was odorless because normally they are quiet anyway, and then there won't be any smell to give me away. But I never know if they're going to smell or not. Each time I go to the bathroom, I suddenly can't fart at all, even if I sit on the toilet for a few minutes. And then I suddenly feel an urge to fart as soon as I accompany him again. Does it every time. It then results in me cramping up, then that makes going to bed and the sex unenjoyable. He always seems to be comfortable and never seems to look like he's in pain holding in excess gas, and he never seems to do any either.

Yet when I'm at home, I hardly ever fart at all, and that is the truth. I've never had trouble with my bowels. But as soon as I go to see my boyfriend, I suddenly turn all IBS. Yes I have sneezed, coughed and burped in front of him, and he's done the same. But farting? Neither of us have. I just haven't got the guts to do it (pardon the pun). I know a woman who has been with her partner for 10 years and has only farted in front of him when she's asleep, but not otherwise. Why would somebody want to have that much control over themselves like that for 10 years? And he always farts in front of her.