Sqeaky Voice

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I'm not sure if this is related to my AS but i want to find out because its been putting me down a bit lately, I'm not sure if its my AS or i have some kind of other Condition affecting my voice. Basically i'm 20 years old and sound like a child. I only realized after i called some people a few months ago on skype as part of a project i was doing online and they mentioned it and then of course they didn't believe my age "thats not what a 20 year old sounds like". I felt this wasn't professional (and i was embarrassed) so i no longer work on the project. However i have started making videos for a video game i play and one of the first comments was saying how i don't even sound 20. Again i just sound like a kid so i can never do serious projects online. My main goal is to make a career on the internet because of my anxiety i don't picture myself in public working. My anixetys were confirmed when an auntie i've not seen in 6 years called and when i talked to her she said, "oh sarah, you sound like your 12 years old" i laughed it off but really its making me upset because i have no idea why i sound like this.

Is this common in people with AS or females with AS even? Mostly i don't like labelling myself but with this i feel like i need to find out what is causing it so i can say "Its because i have ... blah blah" and maybe people will accept it more if theres a reason behind it

I'm not sure if it has to do with AS, but I think I kind of have that problem too. I think my voice is more high pitched and softer than most people my age and it's the worst when I'm tired which is most of the time. One time I even overheard someone say that I sounded like a little girl . I think I sound a little more mature when I'm feeling awake though.

I'm sure I've seen diagnoatic criteria which links aspergers with a childlike voice.

I have always felt my voice is high pitched and squeaky but I have been told I have "gravitas" in work context so I think I work around it in work (when the "mask" is up) but if I'm stressed or the mask slips I revert to full on squeakfest. Oh well !

In my case, I, too have this "Being 20 year old sounded like a 12 year old".
Sure, some people seems to be amused by this fact, but yes, I have the same problem.
I've been scolded just because of this. But seriously? Just because I sounded like that, that means I'm actually like that? "Act like your age", "Be serious" my old mentor said. I didn't do or said anything childish or immature. I'm outright serious and focused even I sounded like a giggling child. It's only the goddamned voice.

I hate the fact that such superficial things are required to be considered a "professional" or being taken seriously in certain work settings. It's all about the goddamned context and the hidden rules for so called 'impressions', like always...

I'm not sure if it has something to do with AS for: Thinking they're younger than they are, or not minding what their voice actually sound like. (The disregard for intonations and accent as well) Or whatever reason it could be.


But then, I don't always have this kind of voice. If I go monotone, people would think I'm always angry or too serious to be approachable. I end up intimidating some people thinking I'm confronting them. Not exactly ideal with colleagues and bosses either.

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I have been told many times I sound like a child -- I'm in my 30's. I have been told, since I was in 5th grade, that I look younger than my age. I used to tell my mother, when she would say 'stop whining', I would say, 'well, stop making me whine'. She thought I was giving her cheek. What I was meaning was -- if she would leave me alone, I wouldn't have to talk to her, which would prevent the natural 'whine' in my voice from coming out. My inner reasoning and problem solving was never appreciated.

I have no idea if it's AS related, but I've had a childlike speaking voice all my life, and still do even now in middle age and counting. My whole adult life, if I've answered the phone to someone who doesn't know me, like a telemarketer or similar, they have always asked if my mother is home, or could they please be passed along to "the lady of the house". Terse reply, "Yeeeesss...that would be me..."

My voice kind of sounds somewhere in the late teens, I think, and kind of clumsy like if loping, bouncing puppy could talk. When I record a voicemail greeting, I try to make it sound nicer, more controlled and more mature in years, but then even friends say "It didn't sound like you so I didn't leave a message."

A friend has also hinted that I often speak too loudly. This is ironic as I spent most of my childhood and teens mostly selectively mute, and when I did speak to anyone outside my family, it was in a barely audible whisper. Talk about over-compensation!

All the women in my family have my child-sounding speaking voice though. My mother had a light, high voice, and the voice of one of my sisters sounded exactly like mine, last I knew. Another sister had a high voice too but when she went into receptionist work she managed to kind of give it a "smooth" spin that makes her sound at least like a grownup.

The funny thing is, I sing, and I can do more with my singing voice, so much so that people accuse my demo tapes of not being me! My singing voice still has a high quality though I'm kind of "female alto" or contralto and not soprano. But it has more heft to it and so people think it doesn't sound like my more thin, kiddish speaking voice, and they think that can't be my singing. However, there have been famous singers who don't speak like they sing, so...

I think child-like voices in ladies are cute.

I had a squeaky voice as a child.

It's in no list of diagnostic criteria for autism/Asperger's that I am aware of.

I don't believe it is a Spectrumly characteristic.