I got cat-called earlier.

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This is more of a rant than anything else.

I was out walking with my dog earlier when some man in a car drove up beside me. He had rolled his window down and he shouted something at me, then drove away. I wasn't sure what exactly he said, but he was leering. Something something something baby. It scared the s**t out of me but I was present enough to flip him off as he turned the corner. When we made eye contact again he was laughing and waving at me. Then he drove away and I didn't see him again.

There was nothing really that I could do except for keep walking and hope that he wasn't waiting for me some way down the road. After I got home, I went into my bedroom and cried for a few minutes. I've stopped crying now, but I can't help but replay that moment over and over again in my head. I'm afraid (or more afraid than I was) to go outside now because I don't want it to happen again. Somehow his laughing at me was the worst part. He knew that I was absolutely powerless in the situation and thought that making me feel scared / sad was funny. It ruined not only the walk, which I had been enjoying, but my whole week.

Thank you for listening.

Hugs

I can understand why this could be scary. He might be a creep who will take no for an answer.

Most cat-callers, though, are only doing it for the attention, and are silly, stupid, idiotic, rather than harmful.

Please do enjoy the rest of your day, and don't let that idiot ruin it for you.

Don't give him more credit than he deserves by letting it ruin your day.

If it helps, I'm pretty sure OP is welcome to catcall most if not all the guys here.
The tables need turning...

I agree, it's totally a power-play. Guys like this are the reason pepper-spray was invented.

Dude. Uncool. I think it's safe to say women don't like being objectified. Catcalling is just another example of how d-bags like this fellow (in the car) just see women as pieces of meat.

Let's say the tables have turned. What if women started telling guys they're interested in them by giving them wedgies or pantsing them in public? Would get real old, real fast, don't you think. I think women are trying to tell us, "Okay, we get it, you're an alpha and you want to have your way with me. Just eff off and let me walk my goddamn dog without being hooted at!"

get it?

No - it's just you.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p8uOErVShiE

I get catcalls from yahoo deliverance-style homophobes in my neck of the woods. I grok what the OP is going through. I wish I could smash them flat.

Last year or so, I used to think women were just whining: hey I would have loved to been called a stud or something similar in my single days! That was until I joined a running group. It was 90% female and the route went by two University campuses. The things I heard "men" say were downright disgusting. I was absolutely appalled at what grown men could actually say while driving by. What the %$# is wrong with them?

I guess I was rather naive because I find it very hard to find a random girl attractive without knowing her personality first.

^like^

When you think about it, it's very strange behaviour. If you think someone is attractive why would you try to repel them by trying to scare and creep them out?

some of us don't have to TRY to repel them, it happens automatically.

I was referring to cat callers. They're blatantly disrespectful, which is a counterintuitive way to behave around someone you find appealing.

yes, people can be a mystery, for sure.

Pretty much an everyday occurrence over here. If people are friendly about it, I'll say hello back or acknowledge them. When they're inappropriate, I will now say something back, and it tends to be rather rude--I can't really control my reactions sometimes. Does get old, but it can't really be prevented.

I like most of the replies on this thread.

OP: He probably laughed at you because he was embarrassed you rejected him, he was shrugging it off to himself and covering up his rejection with laughter. It isn't nice for you, all the same.