Do women really have more normal looking special interests?

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29 Jan 2018, 5:29 pm

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If one is not interested in "specifically feminine" interests, it does not equate to that person being "unfeminine."

I don't find an interest Tolkien particularly "masculine." In fact, as a kid, I thought literature was something that "girls" liked.

And what is "masculine," or "unfeminine" about playing music?

Both men and women can have "gender-neutral" interests, too.

Come to think of it, most "interests" are probably "gender-neutral."


The stereotype for "liking Tolkien" seemed more like it was a "fat sweaty nerd boy" thing.

In regards to playing music, it's both the instrument (upright bass and bass in general are not very feminine instruments) and the genres of music. Some of the genres I like are unisex or feminine, but some are traditionally seen as more masculine (various types of metal, etc).



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29 Jan 2018, 8:04 pm

I saw a pretty bass player on the subway about a couple of years ago. Yep, it was that heavy bass. not a rock bass (which looks very much like a guitar). She had to lug the thing around; luckily, it had wheels.

Tolkien, and "Lord of the Rings," in general, I find to be gender-neutral. It's quite a creative fantasy.

There's a woman here who is a certified "metalhead," and wear dreadlocks to boot.



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I have some less feminine traits (i.e. I like to burp) but as far as interests I would think they are pretty normal..shocking I rarely use that word to describe myself but as far as that yes.
I do love Pokemon and Digimon but I never considered that to be necessarily masculine. I mean I tend to like the cute and pretty looking ones more. My favorite is Articuno. There are some that are not like Charizard but generally I like those.
I have an unusual obsession with astrology but that's weird for anyone. However there are a few groups for it so I'm not entirely alone in it.
I would moreso say I have unusual interests for my biological age rather than my gender but most often it's about the degrees. Lots of people love music but rare are the people who consider it their life unless they are thinking of being a musician themselves.



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04 Mar 2018, 7:42 pm

Animals, especially cats, are my main special interest, pretty normal for a woman.



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04 Mar 2018, 8:37 pm

I'm totally girly... I love cute animals like snakes and rats and centipedes, pretty men in Marvel comic adaptation movies, blowing zombie heads off in violent computer games, the usual stuff. I don't even know where I'm going with this or what point I'm trying to make, or maybe I do. F**k, I feel ill.

What do you even mean by "normal-looking", anyway?



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04 Mar 2018, 9:07 pm

Andrewdarr wrote:
I'm totally girly... I love cute animals like snakes and rats and centipedes, pretty men in Marvel comic adaptation movies, blowing zombie heads off in violent computer games, the usual stuff. I don't even know where I'm going with this or what point I'm trying to make, or maybe I do. F**k, I feel ill.

What do you even mean by "normal-looking", anyway?

Some articles online say little aspie girls have more typical interests like dolls, celebrities and fashion while guys like weird things like math and trains. Not true for me. I did have a few normal looking interests, most of my interests were more similar to math and trains. I’m still kind of like that. I have a good mix of normal and weird interests. I just keep hearing about aspie girls who’ve never had an atypical interests or even special interests to begin with. It’s so hard for me to imagine this since special interests are my most severe trait.



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05 Mar 2018, 3:12 am

Balbituate wrote:
Andrewdarr wrote:
I'm totally girly... I love cute animals like snakes and rats and centipedes, pretty men in Marvel comic adaptation movies, blowing zombie heads off in violent computer games, the usual stuff. I don't even know where I'm going with this or what point I'm trying to make, or maybe I do. F**k, I feel ill.

What do you even mean by "normal-looking", anyway?

Some articles online say little aspie girls have more typical interests like dolls, celebrities and fashion while guys like weird things like math and trains. Not true for me. I did have a few normal looking interests, most of my interests were more similar to math and trains. I’m still kind of like that. I have a good mix of normal and weird interests. I just keep hearing about aspie girls who’ve never had an atypical interests or even special interests to begin with. It’s so hard for me to imagine this since special interests are my most severe trait.

Interesting, I've always had special interests but not all of them have been thought of as special or odd or extream at the time. Very often other people are unaware of how important or in what way something is important so it goes under the radar for that reason. Looking back it's very clear to me what my special interests were.

In something like a teenage girl being really into makeup. Would most NT's recognise the difference between wanting to look nice/fashionable (NT) and makeup as a special interest.



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05 Mar 2018, 4:17 am

fluffysaurus wrote:
Balbituate wrote:
Andrewdarr wrote:
I'm totally girly... I love cute animals like snakes and rats and centipedes, pretty men in Marvel comic adaptation movies, blowing zombie heads off in violent computer games, the usual stuff. I don't even know where I'm going with this or what point I'm trying to make, or maybe I do. F**k, I feel ill.

What do you even mean by "normal-looking", anyway?

Some articles online say little aspie girls have more typical interests like dolls, celebrities and fashion while guys like weird things like math and trains. Not true for me. I did have a few normal looking interests, most of my interests were more similar to math and trains. I’m still kind of like that. I have a good mix of normal and weird interests. I just keep hearing about aspie girls who’ve never had an atypical interests or even special interests to begin with. It’s so hard for me to imagine this since special interests are my most severe trait.

Interesting, I've always had special interests but not all of them have been thought of as special or odd or extream at the time. Very often other people are unaware of how important or in what way something is important so it goes under the radar for that reason. Looking back it's very clear to me what my special interests were.

In something like a teenage girl being really into makeup. Would most NT's recognise the difference between wanting to look nice/fashionable (NT) and makeup as a special interest.


My biggest special interest was reading books. Lots of kids are interested in books, it's hardly abnormal, but I just took it way beyond what was normal. I fit the 'female version' of autism pretty well. I had other special interests that were less 'normal', but I learned the hard way not to talk about those. Reading was an approved activity.


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05 Mar 2018, 4:20 am

a thing I've noticed, and that frustrates me, is that there are comparatively few female audiophiles. this is an irony because women generally have better [keener] hearing than most men and in theory at least should be able to enjoy high-quality audio even more than most men can. :dj:



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05 Mar 2018, 8:08 am

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a thing I've noticed, and that frustrates me, is that there are comparatively few female audiophiles. this is an irony because women generally have better [keener] hearing than most men and in theory at least should be able to enjoy high-quality audio even more than most men can. :dj:

It might be that women are the bigger audience and prefer the voice of a man reading over a female, I would. I did once read that men like to listen to higher voices, I think that's why techno stuff usually uses female voices, because they thing men are more likely to be the ones buying them.



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05 Mar 2018, 8:15 am

underwater wrote:
fluffysaurus wrote:
Balbituate wrote:
Andrewdarr wrote:
I'm totally girly... I love cute animals like snakes and rats and centipedes, pretty men in Marvel comic adaptation movies, blowing zombie heads off in violent computer games, the usual stuff. I don't even know where I'm going with this or what point I'm trying to make, or maybe I do. F**k, I feel ill.

What do you even mean by "normal-looking", anyway?

Some articles online say little aspie girls have more typical interests like dolls, celebrities and fashion while guys like weird things like math and trains. Not true for me. I did have a few normal looking interests, most of my interests were more similar to math and trains. I’m still kind of like that. I have a good mix of normal and weird interests. I just keep hearing about aspie girls who’ve never had an atypical interests or even special interests to begin with. It’s so hard for me to imagine this since special interests are my most severe trait.

Interesting, I've always had special interests but not all of them have been thought of as special or odd or extream at the time. Very often other people are unaware of how important or in what way something is important so it goes under the radar for that reason. Looking back it's very clear to me what my special interests were.

In something like a teenage girl being really into makeup. Would most NT's recognise the difference between wanting to look nice/fashionable (NT) and makeup as a special interest.


My biggest special interest was reading books. Lots of kids are interested in books, it's hardly abnormal, but I just took it way beyond what was normal. I fit the 'female version' of autism pretty well. I had other special interests that were less 'normal', but I learned the hard way not to talk about those. Reading was an approved activity.

Book were and still are my special interest. In a family of book lovers this went uncommented upon. To this day despite my collection still growing my Dad has more books (he's NT). Of course I would be able to name nearly all 1,760 of mine and most of his where as he wouldn't. We always shop for book together otherwise he buys ones he's already got.



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05 Mar 2018, 8:21 am

Balbituate wrote:
Andrewdarr wrote:
I'm totally girly... I love cute animals like snakes and rats and centipedes, pretty men in Marvel comic adaptation movies, blowing zombie heads off in violent computer games, the usual stuff. I don't even know where I'm going with this or what point I'm trying to make, or maybe I do. F**k, I feel ill.

What do you even mean by "normal-looking", anyway?

Some articles online say little aspie girls have more typical interests like dolls, celebrities and fashion while guys like weird things like math and trains. Not true for me. I did have a few normal looking interests, most of my interests were more similar to math and trains. I’m still kind of like that. I have a good mix of normal and weird interests. I just keep hearing about aspie girls who’ve never had an atypical interests or even special interests to begin with. It’s so hard for me to imagine this since special interests are my most severe trait.


But maths and trains are regarded as normal "male" interests, even in neurotypical people, right? Boys playing with toy trains and girls playing with dolls are stereotypical gender attributes. Not true, really. Women are encouraged to be motherly and girly, and men are encouraged to be manly and practical. It's a cultural thing. I know that some women, given the chance, can outrank any man in mathematics and other "male" activities/areas of interest. And some men play with dolls. Gender stereotypes are nonsense.



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05 Mar 2018, 11:34 am

I've always had normal special interests both as a kid and even now. I liked Barbie but not as much as My Little Pony and stuffed animals. I also really enjoyed reading about different breeds of dogs in third and fourth grade to the point where that alone took up most of my spare time.

Now I'm into a lot of video games including ones from when I was a kid. I also love clothes, makeup and anime. I think video games are a very normal special interest for girls and women even if they aren't on the spectrum. I'd say video games are just as normal as having a strong interest in clothes and makeup.

I honestly think that the stereotype of males on the spectrum obsessing over trains, math and science is nonsense. Just like females on the spectrum some males have "normal" interests and "weird" interests.


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06 Mar 2018, 12:42 am

fluffysaurus wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
a thing I've noticed, and that frustrates me, is that there are comparatively few female audiophiles. this is an irony because women generally have better [keener] hearing than most men and in theory at least should be able to enjoy high-quality audio even more than most men can. :dj:

It might be that women are the bigger audience and prefer the voice of a man reading over a female, I would. I did once read that men like to listen to higher voices, I think that's why techno stuff usually uses female voices, because they thing men are more likely to be the ones buying them.

this guy has always preferred lower-pitched voices- basses in men, and contra-altos in women. they relax me. higher-pitched voices get my attention better but they also set me on edge. some of the female announcers on CBC radio and NPR/PRI have especially mellifluous contralto voices. there is a staff announcer for "Coast to Coast" who has a deliciously vibrant and rich contra-bass voice that I would not mind having myself.



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07 Mar 2018, 2:21 am

we had these combined classes, i liked learning both in one year, the next year would be boring, i'd read comics under the table
following up on that, life seems filled with waiting time a lot
ask some one help, they come and make you wait, to see them do something not asked or wanted, but they tell you to hold your breath and watch how they're Helping You