Differences in outward behaviour of male and female aspies

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I have recently been to a meeting of Aspies and I noticed that nearly all the males seemed to be more visibly weird (from an NT perspective that is -- not my own judgement !). Actually several people remarked that I appeared more "normal" than male aspies -- I explained that I have just learnt to put on an NT act ! Have any of you female aspies noticed the same thing?

yeah, I never met any female Aspies yet, supposedly there's a woman my age in my city, but I met a guy at a larp game, but he's not as evolved as me, but people will say I'm weird, flambouyant, odd...etc.

Yes I have read about this extensively, being a female with AS. Since females in general are conditioned to be more social and empathetic from an early age, they tend to not be as noticeably "aspie" when compared to their male counterparts. Not to say they are any less aspie, they just seem to have the ability to mask their traits more. I'm speaking in generalities, obviously, because not all females are going to be this way.

I would be a good example of a female aspie who masks it well in public. I learned that the more "normal" I appear, the less people will bug me and make fun of me - and the easier it is to find a job. They leave me alone for the most part. Of course when co-workers or any other NT gets to know me or spends a lot of time around me, he/she quickly notices that things aren't always as they seem. I get a kick out of confusing people though

Yes, I noticed this at the recent London meetup , although I feel myself to have quite a lot of issues.
I was surprised that one at the meetup found it ok to start talking to me, when I didn't have a clue what to say lol.
But on the other hand, I have seen male aspies who have learnt social skills so well that they seem NT to me. There were a few of those at the meetup too.

I have met quite a lot of males with Aspergers, but only a couple of females with Aspergers, so it is hard to say.

Yes what you experienced is normal for the AS realm. I've met as many AS women as men. My experience was the women can all hold normal conversations even if they are a bit weird in mannerisms and topics of conversation. Yet only one of the guys I met can hold a conversation and he was very verbally abusive at that. But at least he talked. The rest of the adult AS men I have met were like children and even had their moms holding their hands and prompting them to respond when they were 28 yrs old. One man even sit and cried when someone accidently bumped his chair. Then the NT's that sponsor the AS group would get mad that the women didn't want to meet with the AS men. That's not to say all AS men are like this, many are. But the most advanced AS people are doctors & medical specialists and such and never bother going to AS meetings so you never get to see the extremely well functioning AS people in the group setting.