Being female

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I hate people who interpret my female status. I have a lot of what could be considered female traits I suppose. I am a pretty vulnerable person; I never lose my temper. I keep an even keel and I hate confrontation. I am upfront about my insecurities and if I don't know something I just say so. I could add self-loathing to the list but unlike most women I know or read about I don't push that self-hatred onto my home and my body. Yes both our reflections about how I feel about myself yet I don't take up the time to be overly critical of either.

I also don't desire to have my own children. I don't know why someone would willingly want to put themselves into that slave role. Another problem I have with society or to be more honest people is that I don't have expectations about the relationships I find myself in. When people ask me what do I want in a man; I don't have an answer to that question except to say that I want my space. I am considering starting another relationship with someone but I don't feel I have evolved much in this area in my life. In psycho speak I am emotionally still quite young and do not think that I can have a serious relationship with anyone considering that I don't seem to need or want what the other person is seeking in a relationship. I like reading about prisons and this has actually gotten me into thinking that if I was put in a small room all by myself I won't go crazy because I don't seek nor want self-validation. I found out quite recently that one of the main reasons I hate it when people look at me is that I abhor validation of any sort. Its weird to think that most of the people on the planet seem to have fantasies about ideal relationships but I just have fantasies about ideal people.

I know you're not looking for validation, but DANG-- you're speaking truth! =) I'm female as well and agree with most of your points (children, relationships in general, etc). Maybe that's part of being a female Aspie-- I read somewhere that we're "the girls with a boy's brain" if you go with the stereotypical gender roles (which I don't agree with, by the way). I like the point about prison (I've actually thought about this point, particularly when people talk about how horrible it would be to be in solitary confinement-- personally, I think I would deal with prison alot better if I didn't have to deal with all of the other people--I've never had a "roommate" so sharing a cell with someone would be torture).

Just wanted to say "right on" because its like reading some of my own thoughts. We are what we are-- we don't have to fit some gender role.

I feel pretty boyish inside. I've even thought about taking up crossdressing! I recognize and accept that I'm a girl, yet I just think it would be a little more fun if I could dress up and act like a guy.

Hell, I like tomboy girls, or hippie girls, there is hardly an in between,
they attract me, not that I am any good at catching or keeping one.

I can identify with the topic b/c I feel like I don't really fit into what is sometimes deemed feminine or female. I like socializing with women but I don't empathize or have the same feelings when it comes to wanting children, pleasing guys, having spouses, marriages, and etc. I am sensative in some ways and I think the same can be said for guys.

Although I agree with your topic, I kind of think that some of this stuff related to women is a bit black and white. I don't see anything wrong with being a female or having "female" feelings that don't specifically relate to men. I'm just not real into the inferiorority complex where a clump of people fit perfectly in a box.

I do wonder why I lean more to what I call entity than All Woman. Might come from being an aspie since I don't socialize with the main crowd as well as others? I never really did feel like I could fit anywhere in a crowd. When I bring this topic up, some ppl think that's great but I've wondered if that was one of the reasons I couldn't make good friends besides the social akwardness.

I don't want children (giving birth especially don't sound appealing), but I still feel like I'm female enough.

I see myself as a 60/40 split between male and female. I definitely think more like a guy does which has been very handy in my career. I also have never wanted kids and neither does my Aspie husband so that's great. I like kids & puppies to play with oaccasionally, but never wanted one of my own. Too much mess, training & loud noises to deal with.

As for pregnancy & birth there is no way some alien creature is taking over my body and sucking the life out of me. I'm child free and very happy about it.

I'm definitely female. Of the nurturing, caring kind. All I want to do is help people... I can't wait to raise my own children. I love my partner to bits, he's the best thing that ever happened to me. I don't know where I'd be without him. And that isn't to say I can't handle being on my own - he gives me plenty of space and time alone, like I need, and which he understands. But he really is my rock, so to speak. My life's ambition is to help people and to heal people, to understand and work alongside nature and utilise the healing powers of it.

I'm a proper 'Earth Mother', I suppose you could say.

That said, the vast majority of my friends are male. I just get on with guys better.