Is it normal for a 17 year old to feel like this?

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Long post I can't help noticing that in recent times I find myself having strong desires to be a mother. It's really weirding me out. When ever I watch programmes on telly about women having babies I get incredibly jealous of them and imagine that it's me in their shoes, I even find myself unconsciously wrapping one of my arms around my stomach. Not just when watching telly though, when I'm thinking about things when I'm on the bus I start having these vivid daydreams about me holding a baby and stuff and my heart melts when I see toddlers on the bus talking in cute toddler language. I was looking outside the window the other week and saw an African woman holding a baby against her back using those traditional African baby slings. I thought that was the lovliest thing ever so then of course I started daydreaming about that being my baby on my back in that baby sling. Sometimes the feelings are really strong and I can't get it out of my head, they first started last year but now they are much more frequent.
I recently watched this video on youtube where a woman is in her living room sitting in one of those birthing pools because she was about to give birth, and all her family were there with her including extended family, it really moved me.

Is it normal for someone of my age to think like that? Or am I just weird? I of course don't want kids until my early 20's because I'm immature still. But these thoughts/feelings get really intense some days.

Edit: how old were the rest of you when you started feeling like that?

Yes, and even younger. I've only experienced that once, around 13-14.

You should get knocked up, If you are interested in my services I'm available from 3PM-10PM on Weekdays and can only travel within 2 hours of my house. I'd be willing to offer my services for free if I have no contact with said child after it's birth. PM me if you are interested.

No, I have never felt that way nor do I now. Kids aren't my thing. I admit I am wayyy to selfish to have children. I will of and on date, possibly marry, but never kids. I'd rather spend money on myself, intstead of gerber and pampers. Here's what I say when people ask if I want kids:

"Nah, I'd rather have a massive acessory collection"

"No, I want my cat to be my kid"
Note: Jude(my cat) is smothered with attention.

Also, I think pregnancy is unattractive. Maternity wear is SO ugly! I don't want to be seem in those dreadful things called clothing.

Basically, kids/pregnancy aren't my thing.

Aw monkey. I think it's normal/natural...

Are you sure it's the desire to be a mother that you have, or is it the desire to be unconditionally loved (by your baby)? Lots of teens I know got pregnant because they felt lonely and unwanted and because they thought having a baby would solve the problem. Needless to say, they were mistaken.

Edit: I was 22-23, and it was mostly because I wanted to fit in. Everyone around me was getting married and pumping out babies right and left and back then I still desperately wanted to be normal. I'm over that phase now.

I think it's normal to want to be a mother even at a young age. There are times when I want to be a mom really bad but I know I have to wait.

I've never once felt the urge to have a baby, not even when I was a teen. My lack of desire for children was only strengthened during the time I shared a home with my niece and nephew. They were very well-behaved children during that time, but I found them to be more of a nuisance than anything else.

However, as a result of having grown up around a lot of women (my mom and sisters) being pregnant, I have developed a fascination with pregnancy and childbirth. I feel great affection for women who are pregnant and I love to touch their tummies. I also love to watch videos of childbirth on the Internet. I get great enjoyment out of drawing pictures of my favorite movie characters being pregnant, and I find it comforting to think about them being pregnant as I'm falling asleep at night.

To make a long post short... You're the normal one, Monkey. I'm the one who's strange.

(LOL at Xenu's post )

Oh it's good I'm not alone here then.

It can be just a sign that you're healthy, old enough person in good condition. So your body thinks "why not to have a baby,?" I never wanted to have a baby, but I became hypersexual (very annoying, I couldn't live normally, I had one-track-mind, sexmaschine bleeeeh ) about a year ago. I knew that it's only my body wanting a baby, so I avoided stupid situations I could regret later.

So... yes, it's normal to feel like this. But you have a brain and you know it's wrong moment to really have a baby, so don't make a baby. Your body will be satisfied, but your life not.

I think its normal enough. I don't know may people like that but I think it's not abnormal.

I have never had any desire to have children because its way too much stress. The only time i've ever thought about it was I really love a man and can imagine having his kids.

I think it's pretty normal. I've always wanted to have kids. I really like them and I still do after having 3...and all 3 have ADHD and one likely has AS like me...*rolls eyes*. But they're still the greatest!! !

~Kate

Yes, it's completely normal. My friend is very similar to you, she really wants to be pregnant and have a family.
I'm personally not quite there yet, but I think it isn't abnormal to want this.
Just make sure to not act on this instinct until you are able to afford the baby, because instinct or not, it's not fair to the baby to suffer for your whims.

Perfectly normal...I went through a stage much like you describe for the first time when I was only 12 -- I didn't even have my period! I have a friend who calls it "baby lust" and many women go through one or more stages of "baby lust" in their lives. Some women wind up with babies, some don't -- I haven't had a "baby lust" episode in about 7 years. The closest I've been in recent years is the mixture of envy/curosity/sadness I've had after the birth of each of my nephews. My husband and I are childfree and I know it's the right choice for us, but I still catch myself imagining conversations I'd have with my kids (my imaginary kids even have names, Gabe and Ellie, which my husband and I picked out before we decided to be childfree). Sometimes, knowing I'll never have the chance to have those conversations makes me very sad. I really love kids, but I simply cannot countenance bringing any more people into this world. (We might adopt someday, but I think our "kids" will always be of the canine persuasion.)