Anyone else NOT stuck in Routines?

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I don't find myself "stuck" in routines. I quite enjoy them. But I have them on two different levels. There are my specific routines and my general routines.

There are specific routines. I.E. when I am making breakfast I do everything in a specific order. First I put kettle on, then I pour a glass of water and take my pills (garlic tablets, glucosamine), then take my oils, then I put down toast, prepare cup of tea etc....

Then there are my general routines. After work on Mondays I go to dancing. Tuesdays and Wednesdays I play basketball, Thursdays and Fridays I catch up on reading my text books and journal articles and news posts to forums about my obsessions (stuff I hadn't been able to fit on the rest of the days). I also go to dancing on Friday night, but only every second to third Friday night. Saturdays I visit my fathers house. Sundays I have off of work. I exercise in the morning, then do interests in the midday, then visit a friends house in the afternoon, before heading back home to do interests etc...

While I am not "stuck" in a routine, the knowledge that I know what is coming up reassures me. That I might miss a train or get stuck in traffic annoys me, as long as I eventually get to do what I thought I was going to be doing... I am fine. I only really get frustrated if what I thought was going to happened doesn't happen. I am not so mired in routine that I can delay an hour or two, or "fit in" something to my schedule that was not already there etc...

For instance, if I we have an activity does not happen for whatever reason I am just as likely to sit and stare at a wall for 4 hours until bed time at a loss for what to do. Of course, having things like WrongPlanet tends to take up the gaps. Espcially during those times when I ache for human interaction. For while I have scheduled in lots of human interaction, I still tend to feel like I am the only one on the planet.

No, Im a bit like that too... I am starting to want to be in situations where I am not pressured to feel in control of things because actually I am crap at controlling stuff.. I need to learn to be more easy going about things going wrong/right.

I'm forced to have a routine because of work, but I don't need a routine myself. I can change plans in the spur of the moment too.

I'd say I'm more ritual bound than routine. So I have strange habits but a complete lack of structure. Actually regimented life makes me very very nervous!

That sounds like me. I don't like being locked into rigid schedules; but in situations not under my control, I need to know how things are going to happen, and if it starts going a different way, I get stressed.

I find the times where i dont have a routein like holidays or transition perion unbearable. Thats probaly why i want a job so badly cause it gives me a reason to get up at 5am instead of just doing that becase I want to do the same thing every day. Im not a flexible person but i can be slow to warm up to a new routein it just takes time.

Yeah, not so much small routines like order of doing things (waking up/goingto bed at the same time, order of putting clothes on, which chair I sit in, etc), that kind of thing is not really a big deal.

What gets me is if something turns out to not be the way I expect...like if I think something is one way but then it turns out to be different...or if I think I'm in control of a situation but I'm really not... so on.

I don't really do anything without a routine; my executive functioning is blah. I'd happily stay in bed all day if my mother didn't wake me up, or I didn't have to talk to someone.

I don't have a certain routine that I follow daily.

I do however like routine, but in a different way.
For example if my mother said that we were going to the supermarket to do some shopping and then coming home straight away, but instead she decides to stop somewhere on the way to the supermarket I will do anything to just keep her driving in the same direction, which usually fails anyway.
If she stops somewhere unexpectidly I will refuse to leave the car and become increasingly anxious as each second goes by that we are still not driving towards the supermarket.

If there are plans made, I expect to follow them. At home, I don't necessarily have a routine though.

I'm so glad to hear I'm really not alone in this! It sounds like a lot of people have the same thing.

I have certain routines I follow and am very comfortable with.

I don't have routines either, but for the most part, I am very aspie like.

My ADHD treats make up for the need of routines. That's something I discovered early, because my mom is horribly AD(H)D and she seems to have less routines than other people. Very unlike me back then. When I was young, it drove me insane and I couldn't cope with it until years later, when my own routines I had throughout childhood thanks to my very 'routined' grandparents were forcefully taken away from me by someone. I had a hard time getting along with it, I fret other the smallest things like in what order to wash my face and brush my teeth in the morning. It took me ages to get other this and I'm not sure about my routines in teen years myself.
I just know that today that when I place myself into a situation that gets me hyperactive I easily get along with a total change in my everyday life.

I'm very keen on planning to keep me feeling secure, but it didn't strike me as a routine-thing until now. That's an interesting thought I'll have to consider.

I have many routines, as far as what I do, but I do what I do according to mood. Whatever I do, there is a routine. The only thing about which I see none is my music, which is very important to me.

I play several instruments. I pick up whichever I am in the mood to play, and play whatever is in my heart at the time. I know no songs except for melodic patterns I have composed, and am always exploring new ones.

Otherwise, in whatever I do, I have a routine about it. I also have a touch of OCD, so perhaps this plays into it?

This lack of routine was a major holdout of denial for me for years. I thought "I know not all symptoms have to be met, but I'm the opposite way, therefore it can't be AS."

But I'm exactly like the poster. I have very little routine, but I absolutely HATE it when my plans are being thwarted. A lot of the time it feels like so many random things get in the way of what I want to do that I think I'm jinxed.

But then I find in the end I tend to luck out. I'm trying to pay more attention to the random good things that happen.

I know some routine could actually help me organize, but I feel kind of resistant to routine. I'm afraid it will lead to boredom. I tend to only organize things that interest me(and then only as far as I feel I have to, I have many scattered word documents related to my things I just wrote down about my interests, very jumbled, and it would probably take a very long time to neatly organize all of it). I've figured out some organization can save time so I can be more spontaneous later, so I do some of that organizing when I think of it but I tend not to think of it or I think of it at a time when I can't do it and then forget it.

I suppose you could call it sort of "routine" that I visit the internet every day and there are certain websites I go to almost every time(but not exclusively, I often check out new websites), but it's not really tied to time and I don't feel "compelled" to do it. If something else comes up I happily go and do that instead, even greatful something pulled me away to do something else for a change.

Is there such a creature? He sounds utterly unique!