Let's get one thing straight about being an Aspie

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Believe me, I have that part of myself too that wishes that it wasn't so hard for me to look NT, but then I realize that no matter what I do I don't look NT anyways, and I have to stop pretending that I am.

I like being me, as far as I can tell everyone is suffering in their own way, the NT's aren't any better off, the majority of people seem to be living small lives of quiet misery, I feel privileged to be who I am with this amazing unique perspective on everything. I have had pretty bad times, I only recently got diagnosed with rapid cycling Bi-polar, so you can be sure that I know the real lows, but I still wouldn't choose being someone else, there isn't any such thing as normal anyway as far as I can tell, everyone seems crazy to me, lol.
I think that you just have to come to accept who you are, and run with it, I used to care about "fitting in" and having friends and everything, but then I started to question if I wanted those things or if I was being made to feel that I wanted them, and I realised that I don't really care, I cared because the people around me cared, but I wasn't being faithful to myself by worrying about those things. Asperger's isn't a weakness, it's a fabulous view from another angle, and I thoroughly believe that there are many things about having this that make me far stronger than those without it, it's all about figuring out how to make the best of what you have, that's all anyone can really do.

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I enjoy being myself. But then, I do not have difficulties with depression. Were I chronically depressed, I'd probably want to be someone else.

Also, I am lucky enough that my finances are somewhat stable (although I'm not wealthy), my mother is a good support system, and I've found support online as well. Also, I am academically able and I looked very forward to my career in research.

I like being me, aspergers and all. I know others might not be so lucky.

This is how I felt. Being different was a horrible and hard road to drive on. Now, I understand it and realise that there are other aliens like me out there. I'm happy knowing what the AS is and that there's a basis for weirdity whose roots are not growing deep into insanity.

This part is not directed at above poster and quote, just a general observation:
We all believe what makes our world a better place. So, if it comforts you to think that you are not succeeding in life because of your AS, then fine. But really, maybe you should think in terms of what's right with your life and not what's wrong because of your life. Again, we all believe what makes our world a better place.

Most chronically depressed people want to be someone else -- autistic or not.

Although... even when I was chronically depressed, my form of "wanting to be someone else" didn't always mean wanting a cure for autism.

Being bitter about having AS and simply having AS can make for very different life experiences. I try to just accept it, and forge on as best as I can, and not compare my progress to NT people. I think a lot of us slowly make progress in life, especially socially. I am sick of being angry about having AS, and am willing to start trying things and possibly looking like a fool. After awhile, anything is better than being stuck inside your head.

I like being myself. The best part of AS is having obsessions. I rarely get bored that way.

That is definitely one of the best parts, I can't imagine ever being bored, usually there just aren't enough hours in the day.

I hate it... of course I'm probably chronically depressed, and maybe in a better circumstance I'd be able to enjoy my Aspieness, but currently I wish to be normal. There's no practical way for me to pursue my obsessions or utilize my talents, and my analytical abilities only get me in trouble with my family. I'm currently being faced with the option of moving out into an apartment with my best friend, which I'd love to do if not for that I'll need a second job to afford it, and my lack of social skills makes the idea of having a job interview and entering a new work environment utterly dreadful. If I were an NT, I'd be a lot happier I'm sure.

I agree with someguy, I also like my aspergers cause it gives me obsessions so i don't get bored that much and if I do it's for like a short time then i'm back to work.

Today, I hate being an aspie, it really sucks

Hear, hear!

f**k everyone else, I'm glad that I'm basically of a different species and aware of it. It's crazy man, but in general, it seems as though people with AS are more genuine and true to themselves than most other people in society. I mean, there are some good apples in the bunch, but very few people with AS are bad apples and vice versa. Plus, it doesn't matter what you're interested in, if you met someone with AS in a setting like school for example, and even if you two are nothing alike in terms of interests or hobbies, you'll still get along, or atleast that's my experience with it. I feel like I'm part alien and I'm proud of my heritage.

I agree. Normal is for clothing. No one is normal.

Yes, i like being an Aspie. No, I do NOT want to be NT.

agreed. but i wouldn't mind losing the disadvantages.

Very very true. I've never met a contentedly depressed person.



I guess for some people, they want to find something to blame for their depression. If you're dxed autistic, that's one of the "blame" options.