Who here was born with the ability to get social cues?

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better at processing social information. i was a great manipulator

I'm told by my therapist that to all intents and purposes, I don't 'appear' to have Aspergers from the perspective of us conversing with each other, and I seem to do not too bad in things like job interviews, but to be honest, in a job interview every applicant whether they have AS or not, will be projecting a favourable/false version of themselves, so perhaps it's easier in general for someone with AS if you've got a pre-scripted set of answers in your head.

My biggest social 'reading' problems seem to be parties where I'm likely to be introduced to so many groups of people, and I always break the ice in a weird way, I don't know what the pre-requisite is for meeting new people, apart from talking about the weather and i've never understood that one as an ice-breaker, so I can go off on some odd tangents about the things these people don't always talk about. I've been lucky in that most people initially see my weirdness as very extrovert and cool, so I get off with it a bit. I also can't 'read' people walking down the street and I always seem to be the one having to get out of the way, if too many people walk at me, barge me, or smother me, I meltdown. There's an invisible language people seem to have as they're out in public, a way of telling each other how much space they want, or that they're about to cross the road, and I just can't seem to see that language....

I have this ability too and this was always the thing chasing away my suspitions I could have AS. I meet criteria for schizoid personality disorder and for AS as well so I don't know myself...
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt39373.html Here I described my quirks that seem to be typical for AS... but on the other hand, I get social clues...

I'm stone blind when it comes to picking up social cues. The best I can do is a memorized set of "contingency steps".

I wasn't born with it, but I developed it over the course of a few years.

I learned some social cues, but I still am not brilliant in it by any means. I was born with probably the ability to easily pick up a few, enough to pass through life until now known merely as "eccentric", but what I haven't picked up easily has been some of the hardest things to learn.

Actually it is not possible to be born knowing social cues, they vary from country to country. It is possible to have more of an ability for understadning them than others

I still don't really know what they are. I was told I don't pick up on any when I was 17. I don't even know what they look like so I can't say if I can read them or if I never can. I think my ex told me I don't pick up on them either if I remember right.