Under-reacting?

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I've found that my reaction to everything less than it should be. It takes a lot to excite me at all, and most things don't really bring me any immediate joy or excitement. I look at the world around me, and feel like everyone else over-reacts to the simplest things. Simple emotional problems and disputes amongst two people can leave a grudge for weeks on end, and a plain misunderstanding of a single sentence can insult someone. It's just that everyone's emotions seem so fragile, like everyone's heart is on their sleeve and mine is trapped in my mind. I don't understand how people can care so much about things that seem so pointless, like impressing everyone around them. I never had any desrie to impress anyone, maybe a few people, but never everyone. I never understood why someone would take something as simple as me breaking an unwritten rule or over-analyzing somethig I said and make it all seem bigger than it really is. I think it's called being human, but I like to call it people creating drama in their own lives and over-reacting to things.

Anyone else find that they just don't care like other people seem too, or that your reaction to most everything in life is almost nothing at all?

i'm similar in that i am very nonresponsive to most things. one exception would be music. if something sounds terrible, i'll react extremely, whether internally or externally.

i've been on rollercoasters and just felt a mild buzz of happiness where everyone else screeeamed.

It takes a lot for Me to get excited too. Even over the little or biggest things in My Life or even Somebody else Life. Even World Events good or bad seems not to bother Me as well. Some people think I am a little crazy by not reacting to whatever they are reacting too. That is just how I see and do it as well too.

I feel the same way, i'm just naturally unemotional and indifferent to a lot of things.

The people around me overreact, too. Most of the time. For some reason they call me stoic... But then again they are underreacting sometimes. They don't see thing, that can't be ignored. There seems to be no pattern in the intensity of their reactions.

I'm another of the calm headed fraternity. It takes a lot for me to be anything other than emotionally neutral.

I agree with most of the posts here. I’m not moved by many of the things that affect other people. I take the view that nothing is as good or as bad as it seems.
It appears to me that people, in general, are nowadays encouraged to display and share their emotions in a much more public fashion. I don’t understand why. For example, I find it strange when sportspeople cry on TV. Maybe most people are taking their cue from the media, and being much more emotional in public. For an NT, it must be very comfortable to be with people who share their own emotions.

I under-react to most things too. When people talk about me, the two words that always get mentioned are 'calm' and 'quiet'.

I often tend to underreact to my environment, too. A prime example of this was when I was brushing my teeth—rather vigorously—when the tooth brush slipped from my mouth and jabbed me right in the eye. Toothpaste burns! I said ow and was worried about whether the chemicals of the toothpaste might ruin my contact lens. I walked out of the bathroom back into my dorm room so that I could take my contact lens out; then I rinsed my eye.

In conversations, I usually have to force myself to smile so that I don't look disinterested or unfriendly because I have a flat affect most of the time. For example, after my statistics class, I was talking to that (probable) obsessive-compulsive girl who borrowed my notes. I had to remember to make a smile when I said good bye to her so that I wouldn't appear too uninterested in her. It's hard; she doesn't generate too much enthusiasm because she's very businesslike, and I don't even have a clue whether she's interested in me or just being friendly in some way, and I still don't know her well enough to have developed much attraction to her.

A third example is riding my bike to get around campus. Someone once noticed that I very nearly ran into a car and just went on. They found it odd that I wasn't shaken from this. I was for a few seconds, but I still had a class to get to.

Most of the time, I feel as though I'm in a state of waking sleepfulness. I'm awake and aware of my surroundings but not feeling completely vivid, I suppose is how one might describe it. Everything seems dull and distant. For a few moments after I exercise, for example, though, things can seem sharper, more brilliant, and more immediate as, perhaps, more blood rushes to my head.

I'm the same, and i'm not..

When someone upsets me I tend to punish them.

But sometimes I am totally indifferent.. when I should be ecstatic or excited, or unhappy or angry.

The complete opposite of my sister. She always gets mad, I usually laugh at mum and dad's yells or just answer calmly and act like there is nothing wrong.

I often have a hard time understanding why people get so worked up over things - good or bad. Never could grasp the screaming, stomping, super-high sports fan jumping up and down in the stadium, or the church-goer clapping and dancing and shouting in the aisles. Or the whole concept of having a "bad day" - now that really confuses me. Something unpleasant happens and it makes you a miserable SOB to everyone around you for the next 12 hours. OK, get over it already.

I also can jab myself with a toothebrush or smash my foot on something and go,"ow." I am not easily startled. I feel a little startled but it won't manifest physically. I tend to be very emotionally even but there are some things that push my buttons. And I guess that at times I can be emotional but it's usually over music or severe situations such as the death of a child or someone being unjustly treated. In fact, many times I don't even realize I'm being insulted or manipulated. My initial reaction to this is.....nothing. It may take several days of analyzing the situation before I begin to display any emotion over it.

Yeah, I'm the same way. I can get internally worked-up about something fairly easily, but I generally don't see the point in expressing it.

A friend of mine told me some good news the other day. I was genuinely excited. Apparently I didn't come off that way though, because he just stopped and said "OK, I'm gonna tell you again, and this time try pretending you're not a robot." :p

when there is nothing i can do about a situation.. i just cant get involved..

i immediately write off people who have no control of their emotions, childish tantrums.. fits.. ___'n GROW UP!! !

my Xwife would get really PISSED OFF when i wouldnt fight with her.. she stabbed me twice, once with a fork and once with a screwdrive, and bit me so bad on the sholder i almost lost my arm to gangreen.