The loves and hates we have

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As autistic people I've noticed a tendency among us to love and hate things to extremes. Here's mine...

I love thunderstorms. The more intense the better. It is an emotional roller-coaster for me. When I see a powerful thunderstorm approach me on the radar I become extremely exited. It becomes all I can focus on. I will go outside even if there's a lot of nearby lightning. Flooding rainfall, high winds, hail, and of course cloud-to-ground lightning nearby are the most beautiful ingredients for me. However, if the storm misses me, I feel like having a nervous breakdown. I go through denial and anger and some other stages of acceptance. It feels like a dream-crushing experience. Fortunately I have had a good share of severe thunderstorms in my life so far and I look forward to more. While I wait during the winter I will enjoy the windstorms and blizzards as much as they have to offer.
I love a lot of other things that I could go on about, but this is my top one.

I hate unwanted stimuli. I hate noisy places. Too much chaos is too much for me to take in. Sometimes I become overwhelmed by random people in public places, especially if I have to push my way through a crowd. I can't stand loud music in enclosed spaces like cars. I get the most unsettling adrenaline rush from stuff like that. People usually are the source of my disgust in these situations. I hate it when people try to touch me during conversation. Uuuugh! I just wish everyone would be calmer.

Anyway. I'm dying to know other autistic people's loves and hates. And I also wondered if there were any nicknames anyone else called their loves and hates. If not what would be a good set of nicknames. Loves and hates just doesn't sound right to me.

Thank you for any replies. I intend to follow this post for quite a while.
Jake - Hanover, PA

I don't know how many others feel this way, but I absolutely dread being high on marijuana. I feel pressured into the whole non-verbal communication thing and it is terrifying for me. that's all.

It's very difficult for me to actually see what I like and what I hate. I know what I do often because it gives me an escape. I like taking long walks late at night. I like talking to people one-on-one about my special interests. I like being engaged with my special interests. I like the feel of certain fabrics, the smell of lavender and the smell of moist air after a shower. I like going somewhere dark and looking at the stars in the sky so that the stars are fully visible. I like going on long hikes in forests, where there are no people or artificial, human-made objects around me, just pure nature. I like the sounds, smells, and other sensations of being in a natural environment.

As for the hates, this is more hard to say. When I don't like something intensely, I find myself trying to get away from it. However, I don't actually feel hatred toward anything. If something is bothering me, it feels like a burden which I have to escape. I guess I hate being touched, except for hugs. Sudden noises bother me. Being surrounded with too many stimuli at once tires me out quickly. I've never hated anyone throughout my life, but I've hated some things they did. I believe that there is something good in every person.

I love listening to thunderstorms at night. I'll stay up all night (literally) in bed, just listening to the storm outside... it's one of the best things in the world
I enjoy watching them too, but listening is what really makes me happiest. Recordings aren't good enough either... the sound has to surround me; I have to be completely engulfed in the experience.

I hate people who touch me unless I'm VERY attached to them (not even my parents!). People with perfume (even just a small amount) on are even worse, since I have a very strong sense of smell. It completely overloads my senses since it's so strong, even if they're not close to me. My brother's wife, reeking of the stuff, tried to hug me on Christmas Eve - I was very close to pushing her away and running out of the room to escape! I can smell someone's perfume lingering in a room for hours and hours after they leave, even if no one else says they can. It's horrible...

have very very strong likes and dislikes and things I deem bad or good. Listing them all would be a bad idea though.

Thunderstorms... I love thunderstorms. I don't know why. I just remembered it when i saw your posts on it. The bigger the storm the better. Lightning is fantastic. The rain, hail... The forces of nature colliding. It's brilliant.
You've all touched on this all ready.

Another thing I love is nature. I hate how man has mutilated it. Cities are disgusting. The last time I took the bus to the city (I live in a town next to a city) I really realised this. I was nervous and agitated the whole time I was walking (I was with family too). Cement depressed me. It pains me when I see houses and to think of all the trees that were cleared for the land and all the ones that were cut to build the house. The city noises... Cars whiring passed blowing horns... I hate it.

Okay. I'm done. It's 1:30 AM. I could elaborate. A lot. But I need to sleep.

Just one more thing. These were two loves/hates I remembered because of others posts. I'm definitly not neutral on every other subject.

I have too many loves and hates so I can't list all of them.

I love my oldies, but I can't stand to watch TV.

I love Swinging London, but I can take or leave the Disco Era.

I love December, but I hate November.

I love the cold January, but I could leave the scorching hot months of July and August.

I love Routemasters, and I hate bendy buses.

I love The British Invasion, but I'm not much for the hippie music recroded between 67 and 69.

I love The Kinks, but I don't really do The Village People.

I love The Clash, but I hate Disco.