Well, I'm not too concerned with this issue. It's just a word. Sure, it sounds diminutive feminine. My last name is a french diminutive feminine, providing me with unique additional hell in elementary and jr. high (middle) school. I've just learned not to let the thoughts of small minds bother me. I've been thinking about how to come out to co-workers and supervisors at my new job. I know I will, it's a matter of timing and style. I think I'm just going to wait until somebody says something about one of my idiosyncrasies, and I'll say nonchalantly, "Oh, I have Asperger's Syndrome" and we'll go from there. Later I can say things like, "Oh, you know, it's more of that autistic sense of humor." Words are just words. It's how I use them that makes the difference.
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"The cordial quality of pear or plum
Rises as gladly in the single tree
As in the whole orchards resonant with bees."
- Emerson