irishwhistle wrote:
It does depend on the way it is repeated. I've observed that all people who are actually verbal will at some point use a filler word for no other purpose than that. Some are chronic... my husband and I have each noticed speakers at our church who have a favorite. I once sat and counted how many times one woman said "y'know" while giving a lesson. I saw one movie where Barbra Streisand played a woman who filled space with "I mean" and nearly drove her shrink crazy. That one is universal.
If you mean repeating a word in the manner of a verbal stim, for no real reason, maybe even inappropriately, then you're heading more toward things on the spectrum. I once spent most of a shower singing, "Honeysuckle, buzzy bee!" softly to myself just because it had the right "click" to it. I get so bored when I shower but I have to make myself remember to wash everything on my mental list, and I usually do it in the morning when I'm still disoriented from sleep so I'm not terribly relaxed when I wake up, ironically, thus pretty tense in the shower. I know, sounds kooky. What can I say?.
That's what I meant

I think I really should have said "stim" lol. I honestly didn't make the connection to stimming until you posted this...
But yes, it is a sort of stim.
In terms of repeated words that even NTs have, I used to say "like" a lot, similar to many in my generation. I finally stopped when I met a guy who couldn't say more than 2 words without saying "like," it was really unbearable. He sounded like a valley girl! "This is like sort of like a like example."
On the topic of stimming, I knew a very jock/bro-ish guy in high school who I suspected had tourettes. He would say "doug" (though he insisted he was saying "dog": "No way doug, I'm saying DOG doug.") He couldn't even say ONE word without saying it. I remember when our math teacher would say something he didn't understand, he would yell out, "DOUG WHAT?!" hahaha. It was very charming, really.
No one really believed me, but I was sure it was tourettes even if he didn't know it, simply because it seemed so uncontrollable. He also seemed embarrassed about it... Whenever anyone asked him about why he was saying "doug" (/"dog"? lol) he would get really defensive. It just seemed like a tic, and someone like me, who has many tics, can recognize my own kind.
I eventually learned around graduation from one of his friends that he did indeed have tourettes! I felt pretty proud of my diagnostic skills haha.
To the people talking about noises they make when upset, I tend to groan...which is a little bit awkward. I've learned to control it, so I don't do it in public, but oh god it builds inside of me. I have to leave the room and go to the bathroom or something so I can make groany noises hahaha. It's like an itch I need to scratch.
Another reason I
love having an aspie boyfriend is that I can do all my weird habits/tics around him and he doesn't care, because he understands and has them too. Previous boyfriends of mine have all never said anything about it, but they were so obviously disturbed that I just stopped doing stims/tics around them and had to revert back to my leave-the-room method... So I like that I can make weird noises around my current boyfriend as much as I like and he actually finds it endearing