Ever had someone tell you you shouldn't have said X?

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My friend mention going to a Georgia University so I did some research and it states you need your license and do the exam before even being considered for the Bachelor program. I texted her "so you are getting your license first right??? My mom said I shouldn't have said anything since she has probably looked into that said college (which she has) BUT the way she was talking (from reading her texts) was she's going to apply and go next September but the site clearly states you need your license and test results before even getting considered for being accepted into the program. I didn't realize texting what I did was wrong. She didn't text any response back and it's probably no big deal of course. but was curious any stories of you said X and someone say you shouldn't have?

Countless times. It's the only possible way to learn what the boundaries are.

It is very common among NT people to not know what to say, just as it is for AS people. The biggest difference, as far as I can see after being here for a while, is that NT people (myself included) are far more likely to consult each other at great length before saying things.

"How should I say this to my boyfriend?"

"What should I tell my friend?"

"What should I say to my parents?"

"What should I say at the funeral?

The question of what should be said is then discussed at great length and a consensus reached or not reached. In any case, I suspect that not klnowing what to say is common to both NT and AS people. But that NT people are far more likely to have group discussions.


Exception? WP of course. There are sometimes "what should I say?" threads here. And people respond to them in very much the same way that a bunch of NT people at a Starbucks would. The main difference is that NT people are doing this nearly 24/7 while AS people are doing it only on WP.

Or not. But that's my guess.

about half of everything i say to anyone is one of those 'you shouldn't have said that' things. i've said some really stupid things and i've also said dirty things out of context in an attempt to be funny.

I'm an Aspie and yet I've roleplayed with a cousin what I should/shouldn't say to the teacher I upset. She has helped me some.

Of course I do, at least once a week. Usually a moderator here.

What about "Y" and "Z?" And all the other letters in the alphabet?

I tell myself that all the time!

I don't see much of a problem with what you said though. It sounded to me like you were only trying to help out your friend. What on earth is wrong with that?

Might have been the "way" you said it more than what you said.

"so you are getting your license first right???" sounds a bit like, I dunno, "parental?"

It might have been better worded something like, "Hey I was just looking at that school and noticed this. Did you happen to see that?"

I've had a LOT of trouble finding the information I need on college web sites. It's VERY easy to miss some very important information.

Too many times to keep track of, happens pretty frequently.

I've sad many things that I shouldn't have said, over my lifetime. If I had a quarter for each time, I would be rich.

If I had been given a dime for every off remark I ever made, I wouldn't have to work! Seriously, I still make mistakes on a regular basis. It even happens to me at work.

That happens to me often, but I read a blog written by an articulate gentleman with Asperger's, and he mentioned that most of the time the reason people tell you about events that upset them is that they are conveying the feeling, not the facts. When people explain their horrible days, the point is that they are unhappy and having a tough time getting by. I read and eventually learned from experience that people don't want advice or corrections or details about what happens when a bee's stinger becomes dislodged from their body I just ask first if they want details and I pretend to understand why it matters that their best friend has the same shoes or whatever.

Yes, I've had my choice of words "corrected" many a time, words that I had thought were right on target.

Pretty much everyday! I am always saying stupid stuff (well, stupid according to "normal" people, I guess).

For example, just a few weeks ago I went to the beach with some friends. We were all sitting and eating and I noticed the bone on one of my friend's foot was like protruding. So I asked her "Is that normal?" And everyone yelled at me. But I really just wanted to know if she was okay or not. She didn't get very upset but said it was cuz of wearing high heels too often.

That same day I made a bunch of other social blunders. Another friend was showing us pictures of this box house he had made on the beach. It was this big structure made only of cardboard boxes. He said he'd even managed to get a TV in it! I remarked "Wow, that's like a homeless person's dream." I got it for that one too

All the time... its how I learn