What aspects of your Aspergers do you hate?

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22 Oct 2010, 7:04 pm

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I hate feeling so emotionally disconnected from other people, like I could never be 'close' to anyone. The obsessive interests can be distracting and they control my life. I wish I could be more 'spontaneous' and not have to plan everything in advance. I'm tired of not understanding jokes and sarcasm, taking things literally all the time, and not understanding other people and their intentions and emotions.


YES! I agree. I wish I could be spontaneous too. When co-workers invite me to hang out after work I usually just say I'm too tired.



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22 Oct 2010, 7:15 pm

Hate... that's a very strong word.
I can't think of any aspects of it that I actually hate.
There are things I could do without, though.


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22 Oct 2010, 7:54 pm

Socialization. People (including myself) are unpredictable all the time.


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22 Oct 2010, 9:19 pm

I do not hate any part of my Asperger's. I accept Asperger's as part of what makes me who I am---and I generally enjoy my life.


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22 Oct 2010, 10:52 pm

Poor social skills. I know social etiquette but can never put it to practical use. I feel so glum sitting back with a million things to say but no one is interested to hear it, and I'm not interested what they're talking about.
My explosive moods cause me problems too.
My lack of flexibility.


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23 Oct 2010, 11:58 am

I don't really HATE anything about it, but it makes daily life a bit stressful. I tend to be offensive without meaning to, and my entire life I've never known when to say sorry, I can't understand general social situations, and I can't stand crowds of people...which makes going to concerts suck, even though I LOVE music. It puts a lot of stress of my relationship too, my boyfriend is NT, but he tries to understand. (He's the only person I ever felt any emotional connection to, crazy huh?) I also can't stand the hypersensitive hearing. Ahh!



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23 Oct 2010, 6:15 pm

One thing I have always been lousy at is deciphering weird smirks on people's faces. Part of me wants to believe they are in no way antagonistic but they probably are sardonic and mocking. When someone looks at me with the weird smile I never know what that means.



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23 Oct 2010, 6:48 pm

I hate the fact that I come out as rude sometimes even though I don't mean to be. Most of the time its the WAY I say things instead of what I say. Thats what I hate the most.



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23 Oct 2010, 7:32 pm

Having to be like everyone else just to get by , if I'm not hurting anybody why can't I be left in peace? I won't find that with a significant other or find that in friends , I stick to my pets and hobbies they will never give me grief. :)

I simply don't understand why parents force their children to be NT it's unethical the equivalent of asking a wheel chair bound child to go up a set of stairs.

Why would you want an NT child anyway ,promiscuous sex, drug and alcohol abuse, cruelty, irrationality mindless consumerism and all the other undesirable side effects that come with the disorder.


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24 Oct 2010, 10:31 am

I hate that too much sensory input can make me feel like I need to explode.


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24 Oct 2010, 10:48 am

I hate how others view Asperger's. I also don't like the name itself. It's hard to say without people thinking that you said Ass-burgers but there's not much that can be done about either of those things. :/



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24 Oct 2010, 11:04 am

I hate others' views on it, for one thing, because the general public views us as a disease or a menace, and I hate others' intolerance of us.
I hate the fact that people think I'm stupid because I can't control my emotions, and because I'm still not interested in boys.
I hate that people think I'm a plague, and therefore avoid me.
I hate how people think we can't live "normal" or "successful" lives, when we know that success is about how content you are with the job, or how you're helping people, not money or commercial means.
I hate how I can't talk to someone about what I like without getting made fun of.
I hate being misunderstood.
I hate that they want us gone.



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24 Oct 2010, 11:05 am

Erisad wrote:
I hate how others view Asperger's. I also don't like the name itself. It's hard to say without people thinking that you said Ass-burgers but there's not much that can be done about either of those things. :/


You can get around the name thing by pronouncing the "g" differently and you can get around how people view it by educating them when they come out with BS stereotypes.



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24 Oct 2010, 11:09 am

Asp-Z wrote:
Erisad wrote:
I hate how others view Asperger's. I also don't like the name itself. It's hard to say without people thinking that you said Ass-burgers but there's not much that can be done about either of those things. :/


You can get around the name thing by pronouncing the "g" differently and you can get around how people view it by educating them when they come out with BS stereotypes.


I usually say "high functioning autism" to get around that entirely.

Sadly, not everyone would listen. That and they assume that I don't have it because I'm in college or I'm "too social" to have AS. I know of three other girls who have AS at my university and we're not dumb or anti-social. We're very active in our clubs of choice. :/



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24 Oct 2010, 11:10 am

Erisad wrote:
Sadly, not everyone would listen. That and they assume that I don't have it because I'm in college or I'm "too social" to have AS. I know of three other girls who have AS at my university and we're not dumb or anti-social. We're very active in our clubs of choice. :/


You can't teach those who won't listen, I guess.



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24 Oct 2010, 11:13 am

Asp-Z wrote:
Erisad wrote:
Sadly, not everyone would listen. That and they assume that I don't have it because I'm in college or I'm "too social" to have AS. I know of three other girls who have AS at my university and we're not dumb or anti-social. We're very active in our clubs of choice. :/


You can't teach those who won't listen, I guess.


yeah, luckily those who don't listen aren't in my group of friends. I'm in with the nerdier/misfit bunch so autism is an understood concept with most of them. Sometimes they'll try to compare the three other girls with AS and wonder why I'm not like them or something along those lines. *shrug* Most of them get it though so it's not super frustrating.