What aspects of your Aspergers do you hate?

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I've read a lot of people say obsession, my obsession doesn't bother me, in a way it's acatually really helpful and fun. I can finish a whole book series before any of my other friends have finished the first one. What I hate the most is the anxiety and social confusion. Both make being around people quite difficult.

the things i don't like about myself/aspergers.........being unable to say the right thing, no social life, i'm 20 and i feel old as f***, i trust next to no one, feelin no love from anyone but family.

...only thing keeping me going is hopefully joining a group of autism spectrum people in my area; i can only hope they are actually like me, cuz i'm thinkin i'm weird even for someone with AS

What bothers me most is not only not feeling liked, but feeling disliked. It's the silence when I enter a room where people were talking in a very enthusiastic way before I got in. Or the hostility people show towards me to make me understand I did something wrong, but without telling me exactly what, and without me being able to guess what it is. It's hearing people talk behind my back when they didn't hear me coming, for example saying I'd need to see 'someone' (doctor). Like someone wrote here already, it's the fact that often I feel that people would like me gone. Not matter how hard I try to make people comfortable with me, there seems to still be something that makes them really uncomfortable (I'm guessing it's the blank look, lack of facial expression, and the silences I involuntarily leave between sentences due to having to think what to say).

Media induced sterotypes. My horse back riding instructor was a school phycologist did not have a clue about AS. She kept comparing me to Temple Grandin and when I complained that Rainman created a sterotype she said it brought awareness to autism. I heard that Kim Peaks, the inspration for Dustin Hoffman's character wasn't even autistic and anyway it didn't raise awareness it created a horrible sterotype. People either think I can either be stepped on or that I am a monster.

I did a little research and found that Temple Grandin coached Dustin Hoffman for that role. I have yet to see the movie. I don't know if I'd be sad or angry after watching it. >.<

A friend of mine was confused when I said that I admired Temple Grandin. "But, she compares autistic people to cows! I'd be offended." I was kind of amused by her comment. She's not calling us cows but using them as a possibly medium to explain our behavior to NTs. It doesn't hold true for everyone on the spectrum but then again there isn't one mode of behavior that is true for all on the spectrum. *shrug* We're all different.

I hate the social problems. The fact that if I manage to talk to someone, they usually don't like me.
And sometimes its anoying to misunderstand people and be misunderstood.

But I don't have problems with my obsession, actually my obsession make me feel safe, because with the dogs around me, noone can do any harm to me.

Oh, and I know that it's impertinent to the discussion, but your signature just described me. I have a habit of making generalizations about myself, as well as a low self-esteem...but I am happy sometimes (especially when reading, watching glitch pokemon, watching anime or manga, drawing anime or manga, writing, going on the computer, and watching medical shows)! Seriously~♪

Yeah. I figured I'd have that there so people would know that I'm aware of it. Admitting that I have a problem is the first step to fixing it and all that.

I hate that I can't switch off my feelings. Like my feelings for my female befriender. Bloody Aspergers! Its incredibly annoying.

I hate the social rules that really serve no purpose other than taking up space in the social milieu. I grinds me to dust watching people blindly capitulate to utterly meaningless conventions and worse expect me to play along and even worse get irritated if I don't.

The working memory/processing problems are really annoying

I hate not knowing when I'm annoying people, or when the right time is to leave a social situation. I also hate panicking when things don't go to plan or break my routine, especially if there's other people around.

The lonliness... without a shred of doubt... and the inability to do anything about it. It seems that everything I ever try to do to meet people that I want to meet always ends in failure, making me look like a fool and reinforcing that bear of lonliness that is always on my chest. The obsessions I can live with and even manage to put to constructive use for me and the various communications traits only affect me minimally. But the lonliness always seems to be an ever-present curse on my life.

I hate the feeling of loneliness, its a dark and horrible shuddery thing for me. I realise that I will need support for the rest of my life, although I very capable of independence and free thought and opinion, its just the overwhelming feeling of loneliness that makes me sad. If I do get my own place in years to come, then I am going to need a friend(s). I can mix with people and talk with them and have no fear going to a nice bar somewhere for a drink with them.

The fact that we don't have big wings or laser vision.

I also dislike the loneliness the most. I have grown used to being alone over the years. I was an only child, and during the first few years of my life I lived in a neighborhood without peers around my age, so I got used to being alone. As a result, I also got used to being lonely. However, that does not mean I grew to like it. I still desire social interaction, and I am frustrated by not being able to enjoy it for the most part. The few friends I have had over the years have only been attained by finding a common interest of which he or she obsesses as much as I do.

In the past few years all of the friends that lived near me have either moved away -- far away -- or died. Needless to say, this does not help matters. I still converse with a friend who moved to Kansas and another who moved to Germany (I live in San Diego, CA) on a more-or-less regular basis, but it isn't the same thing. - LJS