feeling like being alone but have to be with others.....

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The hard part of the holidays is all the social stuff. I feel all done with it and just want to be alone with my own thoughts. so far I'm not in shut down or melt down. I don't want to get there but feel obligated. In fact I feel like I'm constantly being pulled to do more than I'm able. I avoid social stuff and talking as much as possible. I have to put on an act to get through it all and I can't wait for another week to go by so that I can go into isolation mode. Anyone else? Any ideas? Even people who know I'm aspie ask more of me than I feel I can give. I long to be alone in an empty house. I know this to shall pass. I just wish life were easier sometimes. I do love my family, friends and neighbors but in really small doses.

How I know it. Wife and I both though with different modalities.

She has compulsion to join until she stresses out. If lucky the breakdown comes after the event not during.

I find ways to opt out, even if only be hiding in a corner with two or three likeminded while the party rages on.

Be reconciled:

Most others will not understand.

Many will blame - so aloof - snap out of it - you could if you wanted to.

The choice is often going to be between self preservation and offending people, or killing yourself with people still thinking you are an uppity loser.

By me, self preservation is the way to go. My wife will go further, but will back off before self destruction.

You are emphatically not alone.

A lot of the time NT's feel that their affection is normal, when to you it may be a bit too much at that moment. Make time when you feel comfortable to spend quality time with them, but make it evident that sometimes you just need to go to your room and chill out. Don't ever feel pressured, forced affection is not good affection at all.