Superiority Complex

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It's fine to have an ego; that's what gives us confidence and lets us be sure of who we are. That's important for everyone.

Humility is something that is absolutely key, however, and especially important for Aspies. You can't just "try being humble" and give up. It is a complex thing and make take a lot of practice. However, it is absolutely crucial that you get it down.

First, it's cool you are taking care of yourself and avoiding pitfalls and treating yourself with the respect you deserve.
As for the superiority thing, it's like which came first, the chicken or the egg? Who was superior first, me or certain others? I don't know. I think I am better off than certain others because I choose not to live in denial. I choose to confront certain issues and not rationalize them away. To me that's the true evil, rationalizing the truly insidious. So, IRL I choose to complain and confront serious problems instead of choosing the "empathetic" route of condoning and supporting. I can't do it. I see that as contributing to the problem.
There are PLENTY of people IRL who think they are superior to me. Ironically, they are often the most dysfunctional people I ever met.

many other people are s**t

In my experience, I can see where some of these people are coming from. Seeing how most of us are talking, I'll assume that most of the people in this forum have high-functioning autism, so I'll just forge on ahead.

I generally consider myself superior to most humans. I've probably been experiencing a bad representation of the human species, but the fact remains that I consider myself more intelligent. As such, I see others' antagonizing behaviors and decide that [i]this[\i] is what makes them inferior. Their constant antagonizing when they gain nothing from it is inefficient and creates a negative effect on my self-esteem, which could make the entire human race suffer in the long run, as it makes me wonder if the human race is truly deserving of the help I may be able to offer.

It's kind of like the girl who is bragging about her boyfriend and when listing his admirable traits adds "And he doesn't beat me." That doesn't make him better, it makes him average. It just distinguishes him as NOT a scumbag and seriously questions the girls standards of a boyfriends up to that point.

Thinking we are better than one person or another is usually based on superficial observations. You see a story on the news of a guy that robs a supermarket. You think "yup - I'm better than him." But what if the news left out a detail like he stole diapers and formula for his newborn because he's been unable to find a job for over a year? Does that change your opinion? Would you empathize more with his plight if you knew all the details? Sure some people really are scum but I'm inclined to give people a fair shake until they prove themselves unworthy...

When I was much younger, I used to feel superior because so many of the people I came across seemed so set in their ways and not very smart. But I have since learned that's a very narrow minded and wrong headed way to look at things. Everybody has some strength or quality, and many, many people have strengths and qualities that I don't have. I also believe that everybody has intelligence, but not everyone applies it and some people just refuse to think, but that is mainly due to the circumstances in which they were raised and not a personal fault. It's easier to look down on people than it is to give people a break. Giving other people a break and appreciating them for what they offer is a skill that is worth cultivating, even though I know I myself am not always good at it and don't always keep it in mind.

I'm superior too

+1,000,000

People put me down a lot growing up. I was determined to prove I was better than them. I pumped up my ego and really lost perspective on how "good" I was at any one thing...became obsessed with "proving" myself to the world.

Generally became an all-around a**hole people couldn't stand being around in the process.

Except the law of homophones, of course.

There are so many variables. Superior how?
Smarter, nicer, more athletic, more attractive, richer, better at ping-pong??
We're all superior to someone at something.
We're all inferior to someone at something.
How do you decide which qualities have more "weight" in determining overall superiority? Does it depend on the circumstance? If you're better at playing the violin, and I can swim circles around you, who wins?

Also, as soon as you declare yourself superior, you lose the who's-more-humble competition.

More specifically heterographs.

It ain't necessarily a competition - follow that thought too far and you end up at the stupid "everyone only does good to make themselves feel better, therefore everyone is evil and selfish" dead end - but humility can certainly be a virtue!

And hey, is that Bobby Fuller over there?

Even an idiot has something interesting to say

Superiority leads to arrogance, arrogance leads to hurting others.

And how are you not antogonizing as well?

everyone has strengths and weaknesses. it's not something you can measure. you may be better at some things or smarter than most people but then others are better at other things and would leave you eating their dust. my brother is a doctor and also has a superiority issue. whenever he starts to talk like he's better than me because i am a stay at home mother i remind him that he didn't learn to read until he was in grade three, he peed his bed untill he was a teenager and hasn't had a meaningful relationship since highschool. he has a good job and he's smart. woohoo..... that doesn't really mean anything to me. i have a hard job that pays nothing. i'm pretty sure i work harder than he does and the hours are definitely longer. it's all a matter of perpective. in most peoples POV being full of oneself and judgemental are probably the worst traits a person can have and the most outstanding traits of someone who thinks they are better than everyone else. to me, we are all equal. we all have problems. we all need to improve one way another. some would say the person who can only do what they are supposed to do has no balls, does not think for themselves and is a sheep being hurded through life missing out on all the interesting and exciting things. yes, you have some admiral trates. just like those that follow their hearts.

Can you fly? Do you know the answers to questions that have yet to be answered? Can you live forever? Can you do anything any other human couldn't do?

If not, how are you superior?