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dryad
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22 May 2011, 8:09 pm

Recon wrote:
I'm seeing a pattern with the whole clumsiness thing. Has anybody considered that perhaps it has to do with participatory motor control? Like, doing things where you need to sync your body motions with another person. Dancing would be the ultimate example. Walking in a crowd is a good one. Any type of choreography, or synchronized performance. Or does this extend to solo activities, for those of you who have the muscle coordination difficulties? When I think back to when I had a strange gait, it was always when I was in the presence of others. I don't ever remember being self conscious about walking alone. This may be a key factor in the muscle issues for people with AS.


my clumsiness is mostly any kind of gross motor skills, not restricted to participatory. it's more (to me) a matter of not being able to judge my body space in a given place. i do much better with fine motor skills because i'm able to concentrate on the task at hand, in one space, rather than trying to figure out *where* i am.


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22 May 2011, 8:45 pm

Motor clumsiness is very common, but not an absolute necessity. Much of what you said does seem to be in line with AS. That does not mean you have it or don't have it. My suggestion would be to go get evaluated. That way you can get the help you need, and your wife can get the assurance she apparently needs. If you go to her with a real diagnosis of AS, she can no longer say you are simply making excuses and are selfish, and she might become more understanding. Perhaps marriage counselling would be of some help as well. Some marriages do not work out, that is a fact of life. I am a firm believer that as long as there is no abuse, infidelity, or some other serious issue involved, people should at least try to work things out before ending things. Sometimes couples, no matter how much they love eachother, need an objective third party to help mediate through the issues.