The autism social rule book.

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If your dating someone and your NOT feeling it, STOP. Especially if its boring and you guys got little to bond over. If you don't have personalities that clique or some overlapping interests there's no point. I know it seems obvious but trust me, its harder then it seems when actually put into practice.

If your female, don't say negative things to other females unless you want dumb(likely fake) sympathy. Unless they know you well enough to know what you mean and not immediately sympathsize. All the sympathy gets really annoying.

Rule 5 billion - DOnt bother worrying what normal people do....let's unite, take over the world and judge normal people for a change. Why do the minority have to suffer any longer when we are nicer than the majority.

ASPIES UNITE!! !!

Build a group of friends that you don't have to follow these rules around. We are different, and we need friends who understand that and are willing to meet us halfway.

Don't explain something objectively to a normal person ...you are wasting your time
understand they only hold the view point that there profile suggests.

if you're hanging with the same people all the time then ive noticed that its possible to pick up a pattern in their conversation and replicate it. you have to be really attentive to pick up on it. they tend to ask the same questions a lot. eg: have you read anything interesting lately? have you been following the *insert issue* in the news lately? have you heard anything interesting in the news lately? what do you think of *insert issue*? i find that last quetion a bit hard to answer because it's like what do you mean how do i feel...? so its better if you ask it first and then either paraphrase their sentiment if you agree or refute it.

and when people ask you why you think people behave in a certain way don't speak as if you are those people because it'll look like you think it. eg why do you think people don't like refugees? because they take our jobs, they might move into our neighbourhoods, etc... most people dont wanna look like bigoted or ignorant twits so make it obvious you are stating someone elses opinion.

and if someone asks you if you are being sarcastic you probably shouldnt be sarcastic about being sarcastic as funny as it is when they think you are being sincere and you can laugh about NTs not interpreting social ques correctly. i ignore this all the time.

Learn how to say, and heed -- "So what?" to a lot of the things that bug you. Most of the time it does not matter.

ask people lots of questions about themselves, smile at people, act like you are interested even when your not, be a a little teasing, it gives the impression of confidence, don't give much of yourself away, be honest. most of the time to get through social situations I act like I'm stupid/ditsy. It's an explanation for me not understanding jokes tripping over and forgetting things, I normally just giggle stupidly and say something appropriately stupid like "oh yeah sorry I'm a bit slow with these things" or "duuuh I'm such a div" people normally just think I'm a ditsy girl, but I wouldn't recommend this, If you act like someone you are not you will end up with a bunch of friends you cant really relate to and who like like you for you (and think you are stupid)

Smile and the world smiles with you. Scowl, and you suffer alone.

A lot of these points here are helpful, but as a neurotypical I actually feel rather offended by some points on this thread, because it seems to me that people on the spectrum seem to think that neurotypicals are over sensitive to everything and I've even read some points here what sound like neurotypicals need to be treated as though we are babies. Or I've even got the impression here that neurotypicals are like emotionless robots.

Well we get treated badly by NT's in general so we have a lot of bitterness towards NTs, can you blame us? So unless an NT really understands that in general we go though crap just being the way we are then yes your likely to be offended. In fact some people want to offend NTs over here. I think anybody if they've been given s**t their entire lives would be rather bitter.

Don't get me wrong, I am not an NT hater, I'm just giving you the blatant response. I have good NT friends who are well good to me. But then I also have plenty of NTs who aren't fond of me who are two sided and evil towards me and I'm not in high-school. Well many aspies go thru way more hell then I do.

So this is just a way to ''get back'' at NTs? Well I'm not spending the rest of my life doing that. NTs can't help the way they are, no more than I can't help the way I am.

I have no idea if I was part of these "offensive" posts stuff but I did post some things here I had learned from Babycenter and I do think lot of people are wussies. I am not going to lump people into groups by saying it's an NT thing.

Guilty. It's hard to not do it because I am that paranoid. I never want to be the victim so I avoid people who I hear bad things about because why would a bunch of people have a bad experience with the same person? So it has to be true. But if I already knew the person and then I heard bad things about them, I have a hard time seeing them as bad. Then finding out what was said about that person usually turns out to be true because I see it myself. So I continue listening to hearsay.

Do not have a snack before meal time when you are going to eat with other people. It's rude. I learned that today and mom scolded me for eating my cranberry salad when I was having a snack because I was hungry and food wasn't ready yet to be eaten. So no snack time before meal time when you are with other people.

Someone needs to compile this into a massive list you can just run through.

I have a good one for you all:

Be a loner most of the time. That way you don't have to worry about 1001 rules that will make people like you.