Things that upset NT's but not Aspies?

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Aww, I undestand, but dear being a virgin is nothing to be ashamed of, I'm 23 and still a virgin, but I understand how you feel, I'm the only one in my highschool that has not dated and still a virgin (my high school was very small)

And yes to answer your question, virginity as well as many other popular trends seem to be important to NT's but not so much to Aspies

Little things around them that we don't even notice. Social expressions that we are oblivious to.

Hmmmm....

A person minding their business staring into space (to avoid looking at people..., you know, staring is rude ) and not at no particular person. Me? I never see a another aspie in real life to my knowledge, but if I did and they had that trait I wouldn't care and it wouldn't bother me.

Justin Bieber.... I really don't see the point of hating on a kid that has no effect on my life whatsoever and I don't even know him personally and whose material caters to teenage girls..... let the dude live his life!

This also goes people that aren't celebs per se, but normal people, you know, the quiet, low key chill people who always have buffoons who gossip about them and Monday morning quarterback every damn thing they do. Even more so than the "sociable" people. I fit the criteria above (The quiet, low key) and I find it really annoying, at work there's this dude who talks to himself and I doesn't bother me one bit lol.

Things Celebrities do....

This is basically the point I made. I was saying (if you missunderstood) that people without autism are just as capable of being uninhibited as those with autism and the opposite is also true: those with autism can be very uptight.



There is no evidence that I know of that autistic people are more likely to be liberal, though I can imagine it being true.



I have attacked no one on this forum except ohese two occasions and I doubt I've ever attacked you.

* Someone who believed jesus was autistic because he was nice to people, i called him an idiot.
* Someone who convinced a man that his son was seeing the paranormal and this man later spent money on a psychic because of it, this seriously pissed me off.

To be frank, many people here are very proud of their eccentricities and how unusual they are in approaching social situations and people here tend to admire their own bluntness: I do too. Talking about how NTs don't accept this and how they're so unaccepting of your eccentricities is the forum's traditional sport - but when someone here actually acts this way towards aspies well ... he who lives in a glass house shouldn't throw stones.

I'm just "being myself" and if you can't accept that then . . well you MUST be an NT! cause only NTs are like that!

Ditto to all of that.

Strange attitudes to death, especially when people have lived a great life and died without pain. Everyone is wailing and gnashing their teeth at the tragic loss (often of somebody they have never met), as if life should never end.

They get upset when I can't see the sad part, but I can see the contribution someone has made to society, or the great fulfilment they had, the happy family relationships, their achievements etc.

Two very active and well-loved activists in my area just died in my area, both having done an immense amount, and there is the same "grief tourism" parade going on around their funerals.

Another thing I don't get upset about is someone correcting me on my spelling and grammar mistakes.

I think there is a phenomenal amount that set's off Aspies that doesn't set off NT's. And Vice Versa. The relationship I am in is with another fellow Aspie (Kelspook). I have been in relationships with NT's and never figured out why they failed so drastically. (Ball of fire drastically) However Now I get it. There are far to many minute arguments to play out here. But a lot were surrounding being asked for my opinion and either I didn't have one because the topic held no interest for me, Or I gave it and it was too direct or blunt. I am a manager by trade. And being as Aspie actually seems to suit this quite well. If I have to tell someone off it doesn't bother me. We are in that position because of their bad behaviour not mine. Whilst my fellow NT managers get themselves tied up in knots over it. 'What if I make them cry??' Usually someone is only crying because you are telling them off for doing something wrong in the first place. 'What if you make them cry?' Um, then they cry? 'Won't you feel bad?' Nope......

Example 1:-
In my old car the radio station was set to Heart FM. In my car now there is a specific CD in the player which doesn't get changed. He had used my car. Fine. He had changed the radio station. Not fine. Couldn't get the radio station to tune back in because he had broken it basically. Not. Happy. Lost my temper. He got very very angry at me, and in the end wound me up so much over it (You're so sensitive, you're always over re-acting, You blow everything out of proportion, You and you're routines, You're so weird, You have temper issues, you always do this, It's just a radio station.....blah blah) That I ended up punching him (I was driving) and then physically kicking him out of my car. Not before the stupid boy had punched me......

Example 2:-
NT set off
I make myself a cup of tea. I do not ask if 'Him' requires tea. In my head, he can hear the kettle boiling and has a mouth and a tongue so is perfectly capable of saying,'Could I have one please?'
I make tea. I get the response, Well would have been nice if you asked if I wanted one.....
Me: You could hear the kettle yes?
Him: Yes?
Me: Why didn't you ask then.....
Him: Because its polite to offer.
Me: But how do I know you want tea if you don't ask
Him Because you're suppose to offer.
Me: I will make you a cup now. Would you like a cup of tea?
Him: No
ARGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh *Heads desk*

I also used to get the famous, You think your always right. - (That's because I usually was right - As I don't tend to open my mouth unless I am sure of my facts)
You're so aloof and austere - (No you're friends bore me because they talk about their conquests all the time which are usually false)
You're so arrogant - (No. I simply have no interest in what happened on Xfactor, and yes it was tragically sad when Bambi's mother died because the artist STOPPED DRAWING HER!! !!)
You're so cold - (No I'm really not, but trying to hug me when I am angry is a bad idea because I need you to STOP TOUCHING ME!)


Example 3:-
With Aspie Partner.

I recently said something that sounded condescending to her. She replied 'Please don't talk to me as if I am stupid.'
I hrrumph'd and that was the end of that.
If I had said this to previous NT partner, there would have been a row.

Kelspook: Could you please tidy you're paperwork up as I can't find a damn thing and it's doing my head in.
Vampi: - Ok.
End of.

Kelspook: I'm completely people'd out today. There are no filters.
Vampi: You need head space?
Kelspook: Nah. You're ok.
*sort while later*
Vampi: (pokes Kelspook whilst saying good aspie)
Kelspook: what was that for
Vampie: Because I just sat for 5 minutes whilst you explained in great detail about Quinine and Indian Tonic water and the Urban myth surrounding it.
Kelspook: Did I mention I have no filters
Vampi: Yes. But if I start just randomly placing my hand over your mouth take it as a cue to cease current topic.
Kelspook: Ok.

End of.

Often if one of us doesn't understand something then they will say, 'I don't understand, please clarify.' Where as I have found that in previous relationships that the NT doesn't want to admit that they don't know something because they will loose face. (I have learnt that fact). However, I don't care. If I don't know something, then I want to know it, so then I may understand it. I am not lacking in intelligence because of it, I merely have a gap in my database that requires a new entry.

My two-penneth for what it's worth.