I have a question for people with aspergers.

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11 Feb 2012, 1:13 pm

Opposite and older.



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11 Feb 2012, 2:19 pm

opposite gender because i feel like im not good enough around ppl of my own gender. plus u have more of a chance with the ladies (or vice versa)


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11 Feb 2012, 2:44 pm

Opposite. Males are so much easier to be around than females.
But I prefer not be around groups. One to one, or "remotely" is preferable.


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11 Feb 2012, 2:54 pm

Male, but prefer hanging with females as a rule.

Always thought it was because my mom was easier to get along with than my dad, but aspergers might have something to do with it.

Actually what diablo said rings true for me.



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11 Feb 2012, 2:57 pm

I am a female, I have AS, and I prefer women if I'm going to be around a group.

I've spent my life around men, brothers, dad, no mom, uncles, male friends. I actually am starting to feel more comfortable socializing with women. Not that I socialize often.



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11 Feb 2012, 3:06 pm

I'm AS and I don't have a preference one way or the other. I also enjoy being around people. I'm female, but I feel male.


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11 Feb 2012, 4:33 pm

Diagnosed female (though genderwise odd, I don't understand the concept of gender).

I prefer geeks. Gender isn't what matters here. However, there are more male geeks than female geeks, so people might think that it's males.



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11 Feb 2012, 4:54 pm

I'm a diagnosed male, with AS.
I prefer having friends of the opposite gender. I think most of the women I know tend to have personalities that mesh better with my own. I also have gender identity issues myself, which are really complicated and difficult to explain.

I am very selective about who I spend time with, though. Most of my friends are fairly eccentric, and most certainly not normal for their genders.



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11 Feb 2012, 9:34 pm

Fnord wrote:
Being a gynotropic male, I prefer the company of women.

Men are icky. I can't stand their "Alpha-Male" posturing games.


I think its the Alpha-Male" posturing that makes me uncomfortable around males. I have considered it before too. I am very tall, athletic and intelligent, so I think guys automatically take an aggresive attitude toward me.



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11 Feb 2012, 10:07 pm

laylasmith wrote:
ok so i have talked to other aspies about this and they all seem to have the same answer. please only people that are diagnosed with aspergers.

are you most comfortable in a group of people of the same gender or the opposite gender?

personally i would rather be in a group with the opposite gender. what about you? and why if you have a why.

and please if it is not a problem put your gender.


I have been officially diagnosed and even though I'm hetero I feel most at ease in a group of people of my own gender. I have to add that l always feel ill at ease in groups so this is a choice between to evils as far as I'm concerned.



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11 Feb 2012, 10:35 pm

I'm a male who feels more comfortable with a group of females.



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11 Feb 2012, 10:41 pm

Diagnosed AS, female.

I'll take either-- if you leave out my hubby, my friends are evenly split two and two-- but I generally prefer to hang around with guys.

Chicks are OK if they're not society whores, but finding a chick who's not a society whore is like raising the Titanic with tweezers.

Otherwise, they're backstabbing, gossipy, judgmental b*****s whose greatest aim in "friendship" is to build themselves up by looking down on you.


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11 Feb 2012, 11:40 pm

I am female.

I am not comfortable in a group of people at all. No matter their gender. I guess I am kind of less scared of a group of woman because they are not as much of a physical threat as a group of men.

I am socially inept to the point of not having any friends at the moment. I don't know how to make friends. Nor am I included in any social groups because I just don't get all this social cues and what not. I have recently learned that I am coming off as a wise ass to certain professors (in the past) and vocational rehabilitaters (in the present) just because I answer their question with an obvious answer. Apparently people ask questions that actually mean a whole list of other questions. :roll:



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11 Feb 2012, 11:53 pm

Same: 3 Opposite: 17 either: 5 Neither: 2


This is what i have gotten so far. I think i might be on to something hahaha.

oh and thank you so much for every one that has helped me by answering :D



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11 Feb 2012, 11:58 pm

zaidjit wrote:
I am female.

I am not comfortable in a group of people at all. No matter their gender. I guess I am kind of less scared of a group of woman because they are not as much of a physical threat as a group of men.

I am socially inept to the point of not having any friends at the moment. I don't know how to make friends. Nor am I included in any social groups because I just don't get all this social cues and what not. I have recently learned that I am coming off as a wise ass to certain professors (in the past) and vocational rehabilitaters (in the present) just because I answer their question with an obvious answer. Apparently people ask questions that actually mean a whole list of other questions. :roll:


Yeah i have done that before. Just answered a question and others think i am being rude but i am just answering them.

I will be your friend if you want a friend :D I like talking to others but i know that sometimes it is hard to make friends.



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12 Feb 2012, 3:48 pm

I am a male who has Asperger's Syndrome and to me it really doesn't matter to be fair with you.