How do you cry?

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mine is very similar, but i don't wail

i have quite a bit of difficulty breathing when i'm upset

i have to be very upset for the hiccuping, but once i start i find it impossible to stop until i'm too physically tired to keep going

i have something now i never really had growing up. when i was a kid i'd hug my dog or a pillow and have a good cry, now i have a partner i cling to and he hugs me and tries to wipe away my tears. I get a bit embarrassed, i don't like crying in front of people but he makes it pretty ok

I'm usually the silent type... no sounds, just tears.

It depends on the situation. Like last weekend, when I went to the ER with an asthma attack/panic attack I was crying hysterically and breathing really fast. I don't usually cry in public. The safest place for me to cry is in my lover's arms or surrounded with aspies.

Best laughter, Very cynical black humor. Like Final Destination 1-5 is actually comedy for me, Strangely atypical of aspergerians is the ability to be affected from others' emotions. I usually however am quite addicted to laughter, Hell sometimes I laugh manically just for the hell of it, (people think I'm laughing AT them, but no, I don't even notice them). It' just bursts out. with a guffaw.

Anything the ponies do on My little Ponies, makes me laugh. (especially when they go psycho). This absurdity is delibrate..

I think the first time I had tear laughs was when Ace Ventura was trying to convince a nut house he was insane, so he could infiltrate it for clues. He dressed in a Tutu- and pretended he was a Football player.

Or on Dick and Jane, Jim Carrey was breaking into a house, and air guitaring and doing really messed up bleep, It was as if I could actually feel the nervious Chi Prana energy between the two men. When he got up close and messed around. Very good.... and thus I had the crying laugh. (I do hope that when I die, it's to pleasureable laughter, where I'm crying.....

but other than that I use onions for my occasional eye watering flushing. My eyes are as dry Negev Desert.

I'm usually level-headed. When I cry it's either out of extreme frustration, or I'm over-loaded and I can't calm down.

Both of which rarely occur.

Me too, I never full on cry, buy get into a similar state as you and Mayel have described.. I also get an intense headache similar to pressure on my temples...

Jason

My mom was the person that got between my dad and me when he was beating me when I was young and she figured that I had enough of a beating or that he was about to kill me and that she had to save my life.

When my mom went through menopause, she got all weird and stopped caring for me and she got kind of mean towards me because she didn't know there was anything wrong with me or that I had this condition. Mom just thought that I was a bad person and a embarrassment to the whole family.

No matter how successful I was or what I did, it was never as good as the things that my brothers and sisters did, especially in school where they got all straight A's while I barely passed, because the other kids in school were always harassing and fighting with me and picking on me and I didn't want to be there and it made it really hard for me to learn anything when they were always trying to beat me up. Dad didn't allow me to fight back - or else I would have and none of this would have gone on.

Later when all my siblings got good jobs and I struggled to make more then minimum wage, she was never proud of me or anything. But because she was my mom, I loved her with all my heart and I tried to be the person that she wanted me to be.

One of my aunts had a form of Colon Liver cancer and when they did the Colonoscopy , they perforated her colon.
My mom had colon cancer for about 5 years before they found it. She would go to the doctors and lie like a rug that there was nothing wrong with her. One day I drove her to the doctors office and she was yelling at me the whole way there that she was mad at me because she wanted to be there 15 minutes before her appointment because she thought that if she got there early that they would take her earlier then her appointment and she wouldn't have to wait as long in the waiting room.
Mom was trying to get in and out as fast as possible so they wouldn't find out there was anything wrong with her.
When the doctor examined her - he said " Mamie your heart is beating faster then normal"! My mom said - " If LT drove you here, your heart would be beating fast too!"
The doctors changed her heart medication that day, which made her mad, but helped her, because the medicine she was taking wasn't working anymore.
The Physicians Assistant found the cancer - because he asked the right questions and my mom gave him the right answers.

When it came time for mom to go to a cancer hospital or have an operation or even the Colonoscopy done, she refused - because she said she didn't want to end up like her sister who has to live in a rest home or wear a bag the rest of her life.

Mom died 4 days before my sisters birthday last October.
I couldn't shed a tear, because they wouldn't tell me that she was dying or that she refused treatment other then chemo.

A girl that I have known for about 8 years, since she was 13, IM'ed me the other night on Yahoo.
I had not heard from her in 3 or 4 years.
She started out by telling me that she is now married.
I told her she must have really messed up something, because that was the only time she ever came around.
Turns out that she is fighting with her mom and she only married the guy because she wanted to get out of the house.
I had feelings for her at one time, as a friend, never romantic / sexual. But we were so close that we talked sometimes all night long on the phone or Yahoo.
I have never met her. She lives 200 miles away....
She told me how she messed up her life and how she wishes things were different between us.
If I was more successful - she would have married me.
But I am a country boy and she is from the city - West Virginia - but still a city.
I poured my heart out to her and when I was done, she left yahoo and me to myself.

I got real sick, I couldn't sleep all night, in the morning I turned on the computer and there was something stupid from her on the computer. I turned on the radio and the song -"You had me from Hello" came on by Kenny Chesney. If you read the words, it was everything that I had told her the night before.

The tears just started rolling down my face, and I couldn't even say the words.

Now why is it that one person that is mean to me - and my mother, I can go to her funeral and say good bye and never see her again and never shed a tear, and a girl that I never met in my life. Is as ugly as a mud fence and I'm sitting here bawling like a baby?

I can't figure it out.....

I rarely cry in front of others, as someone else said. I also have trouble if I am trying to talk while crying.