Choosing emotions.

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Sometimes, it seems that I "choose" my emotions, by taking physical information (shaky, stomach feels funny, sweaty palms) and trying to identify what it means, meaning that I'm considering myself "excited" when in reality it's "nervous" or even hypoglycemic, so I'm responding in an "excited" way, when I really don't feel that way, per se. Anyone else?

wow im the opp. i try hard to feel my emotions and cant. i remember watching the movie Man on Fire, when that cute lil girl gets kidnapped, it was so sad. i remember trying to just let myself feel it but it was very hard. this was not the end of the movie, so i didn't spoil it for any1 who hasnt seen it... but i had the same prob at the end of the movie.

I try to choose the emotion I feel in a situation and try to avoid reacting with an unhelpful emotion. In other words, I intercept the mental process that goes into choosing an emotional response and override it.

I often find myself having to choose a proper emotion for the situation. When I can't do that, I usually end up in a total outburst of frustration or embarrassment. As long as I can control myself, I feel confident.

I have difficulty distinguishing between the emotions that cause a strong physical reaction (shakiness, weakness, wobbly knees, sweaty palms, sinking feeling in the stomach, stuttering, being out of breath, etc). I may have a panic attack and wonder what had brought it about - fear, anxiety, worry, nervousness, stage fright / social phobia, tension or a combination of these. They all seem the same to a large degree, at least, the way my body reacts is the same.

I had to do that too. Long time ago, I used to see a psychiatrist, and we would often talk about feelings. Usually, then sessions were helpful, although on a few occasions, a question would totally confuse me. For instance, the therapist would ask me: "So how did you feel in that situation." When I gave her an answer, she'd tell me: "No, that's thinking; what did you feel?" And every time, I'd be at a loss for an answer, even though she really needed one (for assessment, I guess). To keep myself from having meltdown right there in the office, I worked around that by memorizing a list of names for emotions, and answering questions about feeling with the answer that seemed the most appropriate. But other than that, I think the sessions helped quite a bit; the therapist just didn't realize that I had AS, since it was the late 1990's when the sessions took place.

My emotions almost feel like they are detatched. Like they are out of reach. I have trouble knowing exactly what i'm feeling. It's interesting that Sometimes i FEEL BAD ABOUT THE EMOTION THAT i'M FEELING I feel guilty For what I do feel. I just get so confused!! !

It can be very hard, I know.

For me, it was that I dont have any emotion. When the dog died or grandpa died, i wasnt sad about it. I think it was just more a matter of inconvience for me, as he was no longer available. My brother got mad at me because I didnt cry because he thought I didnt care. I did, but if its not there to tap into, its just not there. I have had three roomates in college and after, all of them told me they wished they could be more like me, as I am always the same. I guess thats good?

I have a tendicy to choose my emotions... but uh, that's because I hardly ever use them.

i often feel subject to my emotions...

i can recognize them in me and other people... but i notice that often the WRONG emotion is elicited in a particular situation... and i can't figure out why or how not to feel that way even when i know i "shouldn't"

before finding out about AS... i always thought i was crazy and just flat out irrational... and often depressed because of it.

now i'm obsessed with over analyzing why i feel how i do whenever the occassion arises... still not that much further figuring myself out. but i realize now that emotions are just an extension you, very much like your arm or leg... and you can kinda manipulate them to an extent... like saying you can move your arm... just not away from your shoulder... so i'm starting to see patterns or cycles in how i feel and how to feed/dampen these emotions instead of letting them just whip me into a mess. but i still get these immediate uncontrolled responses to things that depending on the intensity... i can control or not fairly quickly

My emotions are always detached. It is like they are a part of me but they exist in a seperate entity.