No need for routine but need for plan/timing.

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I try to have a routine, but I often don't quite feel good enough to do certain things.
Predictability is good. Things get bad for me when my life gets unstable.

I love making plans, really. But I only have "routine bits" that I fit in. Things I always do the same way but not necessarily at the same time or even every day. Just when I do them, it's like a trigger switch and I follow it through. And it's really upsetting if someone or something then busts in kicking me out of my track.

I agree that predictability is more important. I totally cannot go along with spontaneous ideas like "hey, you're free right? can you come over for a coffee, I need your help with something". I always feel a little odd for postponing things like that one or two days into the future because technically I have absolutely no reason to not say "sure, I can still play Diablo when I get back." or "okay, I can always clean my bookshelves tomorrow". But I don't work that way... I need preparation time to put it all in a mental time slot, especially if it means going outside.

I can't seem to plan very much. Don't like tying myself down with promises I might not want to keep. Don't like deadlines (scary and uncomfortable). Don't like finding out I'm double-booked with stuff to do. Don't like even knowing about stuff I should do, until I'm free to tackle it - I feel tasked out very easily..

I'm much better picking one goal and letting my obsessional nature take over until it's sorted, then go get another project and get that one completed, etc.

I suppose I do tend to fall into routines, but I don't feel any conscious need of them. I make tea and a sandwich from the same ingredients every day, but I take stuff out of the fridge, switch on the kettle, etc., in a different order every time. After all these years you'd think the operation would be identical right down to the last detail. If things get too predictable I like to make changes.

I'm not very good with routine as I can never do things the same way more than a few times. For me it's like every day is a new day and completely separated from the previous one.

That said, I will get upset at disruptions or sudden changes that are imposed on me, particularly by other people. I don't like last minute plans.